Simple solution - offer her maintenance for the kid that you think is acceptable. If she refuses to accept the offer, then pack in working and sign on. See how she likes living on benefits while you put your feet up at yer mothers. 
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I don't understand how the OP thinks that he's being blackmailed into buying a house, or getting a divorce, which he seems to want?
Anyone able to explain it??
And since when did CUK become a forum for newbies to get divorce advice? It's somewhat different for established members to whinge, but turning up to moan about being blackmailed and want to know how to hide assets etc. - ask a divorce lawyer!Comment
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No one needs to explain this Mr Fuqqer. sorry for spelling mistake. If you read my original post, i asked a simple question in terms of whether i should be opening a new ltd company. i tried to keep my post as brief as possible without going into much detail, but as assumptions were being made, i had to explain myself in a bit more detail. If you dont like what you are reading, no need to read this thread.
I got some good advice here, so once again thankyou to those who have helped. shame about others.Comment
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Tit. Asking for advice, on CUK, for THAT sort of thing!Originally posted by Royal Albert View PostComment
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a real divorce forum ...
Take a look here and post your situation.
http://www.ondivorce.co.uk/chatdiscuss.htm
I have been in your situation, try and agree terms which are fair to both of you - and if possible, hide whatever cash you have away in a safe place!Comment
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So, it's no different than any of the other threads about getting divorced and wanting advice about assets, apart from some vague attempt at reasoning or looking for sympathy. What your question boils down to is "I'm getting divorced soon, and before I file for divorce I want to minimise the assets that my wife may claim on. I have a six month old child to consider in all this, and have a Ltd company. What can I do?"Originally posted by Royal Albert View Post
It's been discussed on this forum a few times recently, which you would have seen if you had been around a bit longer or had searched the forum. Alternatively, rather than asking a bunch of contractors on an area where most people have no experience, you could try a website like this one which is geared towards divorce.
I'm sure that if I went to their forums and asked what the going rate for a .net contractor (who is divorced) might be, I would also get some responses that indicate that there are better places to ask the question.
If you can't handle a few negative (or less than positive responses) on a forum, you're going to be absolutely screwed when you face divorce lawyers. You need to develop a thicker skin if you intend to get out of this marriage in one piece.
Now go home to mummy.Comment
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Royal Albert,
From what I understand of divorce, it is your responsibility as a husband and a father to provide for your wife and child in the event of divorce (and before to be fair!).
You were saving up for a house - so obviously you were trying to sort it all out and do the right thing for your family. The trouble is, there is no difference now really between getting divorced and not getting divorced! You are obligated to give your wife enough money to live off and raise the child (this includes accommodation, food, bills etc).
My personal opinion if you want to make a clean break is to come to a settlement agreement to pay off your wife, then pay maintenance for the child. That way, the money you give her at the beginning is what she needs to use in order to sort out the accommodation etc. The monthly costs then are purely for your child's welfare.
You are getting slated because you suggested that you would be unhappy to see your child living in a council house and would prefer they were living on the street! This is not the view of a typical loving father (/understatement of the century/). If you want custody of your child, apply for it. Otherwise, you need to grow up and realise that the child is your responsibility and you should be providing the environment for that child that you would want for yourself. Your wife is therefore also your responsibility to keep.
On the other hand, maybe the best way to settle this more in your favour would be to divorce your wife (not wait for it to be the other way around!) citing Adultery and blaming her for the breakdown. And apply for custody of your child.
Whatever happens, it sounds like it's going to be a long long fight. You shouldn't worry about what do with your current assets as they are already half hers. If you get settlement for her, you also needn't worry about your future income.
This is all the opinion of someone definitely not qualified to speak, so get a divorce lawyer and sort it with them.Comment
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Maintenance is for the child. not the wife. If she has a skill or a career and can work then you do not pay for her....
I have been here....and done this...it hurts."If you can read this, thank a teacher....and since it's in English, thank a soldier"Comment
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That makes sense - I didn't know that.
**too much information**Last edited by ruth11; 17 October 2007, 14:50.Comment
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