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Originally posted by oscarose View PostCBT helps you manage these feelings by challenging your thoughts and therefore your responses.Comment
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Originally posted by oscarose View PostYour brain senses danger and releases a whole boat load of chemicals, adrenaline etc. It's an unpleasant feeling (sweaty hands, rapid heart beat) but that's all. It's normal.
CBT helps you manage these feelings by challenging your thoughts and therefore your responses.
I have links to some good resources that I find useful. PM me if you're interested.
It just feels like raging anger at the moment, lol!! 'The next person who gives me any tulip at work is getting it' sort of thingComment
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Originally posted by oscarose View PostYour brain senses danger and releases a whole boat load of chemicals, adrenaline etc. It's an unpleasant feeling (sweaty hands, rapid heart beat) but that's all. It's normal.
CBT helps you manage these feelings by challenging your thoughts and therefore your responses.
I have links to some good resources that I find useful. PM me if you're interested.Comment
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Originally posted by blossom View PostHI All, my first post
I started a new contract a couple of months ago and it's hell on earth. Extremely long hours, very stressful, awful politics and a huge blame culture - everyone doing teh crazy hours, not just me. Simply put, i need to leave fast. I have't slept properly for about a month and feel completely overwhelmed and stressed and sometimes i look back on my day and know i handled things terribly but im pretty stressed at the moemnt and its making me ill.
My development lead (who reports into me) has just quit, citing stress and saying he wants to leave immediately. I need to say that this is nothing to do with me, we get on very well and i've really tried to provide support for him but met serious resistance form above in getting him what he needs.
I handed in my notice and im in the middle of my notice now, and i feel like i cant go on. I have far too much to do in a very short space of time and i just cant do it
Can I just walk out citing stress? pretty sure a doctor would sign me off in the condition i'm in at the moment anyway.
I've totally bitten off more than i can chew here - not so much with the role, i have all the experience needed ten times over to manage the piece of work, so its not a technical thing, but its the politics, ridiculous expectations and underhandedness. im beginning to feel completley paranoid with every email taht i cant answer the phone to anyone. i feel like i don't belong there at all and don't trust a single person. frankly its awful.
for the record, I have a solid background, have been contracting for 15 years and have great network and refernces, so deep down i know it isn't me, but its destroying my confidence.
Any advice?
ThanksComment
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Originally posted by blossom View Post2 weeks (including this one) - I know I'm nearly there...*sobs*Comment
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Originally posted by blossom View PostI kind of agree with that - however, in fairness, this is an abnormally stressful environment by most people's standard. the extremity of the situation is impacting on my ability to react appropriately
Generally, I find the best response to stress is to not give a f***. That might be down to the level of blood pressure tablets I'm on, but it's more to do with being seriously ill some years back and realising that life is too short to worry about someone else's problems.
So start thinking about that break coming up, and sort the list out of what can be achieved. Don't try to achieve more than that, or you'll be stressed out again, set yourself a slower, more realistic pace and deliver what that entails.
Good luck - not long to goComment
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Originally posted by oscarose View PostYour brain senses danger and releases a whole boat load of chemicals, adrenaline etc. It's an unpleasant feeling (sweaty hands, rapid heart beat) but that's all. It's normal.
CBT helps you manage these feelings by challenging your thoughts and therefore your responses.
I have links to some good resources that I find useful. PM me if you're interested.Comment
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Originally posted by northernladyuk View PostJust seen this. Advise them you are taking one week's holiday next week.
Just advise them that you're spending the week preparing material for a full and detailed handover...Comment
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