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Gonzo posted : I suspect that there are already forums on other sites that cater for your requirements and I don't believe for a moment that you don't know about them.
Perhaps, but why talk about it, when actions speak louder than words ?
Can we have a new sub-forum called "Slightly Harder Relief ?"
I suspect that there are already forums on other sites that cater for your requirements and I don't believe for a moment that you don't know about them.
You don't beat a loved one or a stranged to a bloody pulp !
That bird I was on about, the one with her own riding crop, she had a safe word.
Was that enough for her ? Oh no. She had to go and insist that her friend came along for safety. So I had to sit there watching, bored for an hour while they did their girlie stuff together, before I could beat there pert little pink buttocks red-raw.
Oh the sacrifices I had to make for others
Pogle posted : Hmm... cooking spag bog together or being flagellated to a bloody lump -
A bit of a misperception there.
You don't beat a loved one or a stranged to a bloody pulp !
What participants in S&M experience is that painful events such as spanking cause the release of endorphins, those potent brain hormones that ease pain when we are injured. Delivered slowly, and often interspersed with lavish amounts of sensual activities and displays of caring, the recipient's (and often the deliverer's as well) brain is flooded with them, resulting in a sustained "high" better and more beneficial than alcohol and drugs can provide.
You do have to go into the activities in the right mind-set though, and CONSENT and TRUST are paramount. S&M partners agree ahead of time on what the limits of their play will be and (if they're wise) establish a "safe word" that means the limits have been reached and all play MUST stop. If you can't trust that a partner will honour these limits, you shouldn't be participating with the person.
This is truly one of those things that should be approached with "if you haven't tried it, don't knock it". It's definitely not for everyone, but can be a surprising path to couples bonding and stress relief. If you have the opportunity, and you can push back the stereotypical image of abuse (it isn't) I recommend you take it slowly and TRY IT. You might just like it. :-)
Anyway, I believe this story to be true. It even works to some degree with animals. It has brought me and my monkey closer together. Everytime I spank it we both get an endorphin rush.
Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire in Hatfield, UK, adds that almost any shared activity is likely to promote interpersonal closeness. "It doesn't have to be tying up your partner or placing clamps on their nipples, it could be something as simple as cooking a meal together or even doing the housework as a duo," he says.
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