Reply to: The smacking debate

[jimjamuk]

what a load of old tosh - each to their own, its a bit like religion, everyone has their view and as long as you dont force your view on me I dont care. I got a few clips when I stepped out of line when I was younger and can say that I think it did me the world of good. Have had to hand out a few clips to the jnr's when they have bulldozed through several lines in the sand of acceptable behaviour and they have turned out to be kids I'm proud of. Do I think they will do the same to theirs when the time comes - probably

[suityou01]

The wee tulipe that was rocking a 70 year old plane by its wings at Hendon RAF museum this afternoon needed a slap.

HTH BISDI

[Wanderer]

A good old clipping round the ears did no harm to no kid.

Good for you! I must be the exception because when I grew up there were a lot of sadistic pricks who liked nothing better than to take out their frustrations by administering a good beating to kids and I can assure you that I saw no good come out of it. Fortunately those days are over now and it's no longer acceptable for people in authority to hit kids but when they changed that law there was uproar about that too.

As an adult, I would dearly love to hit kids when they piss me off but I don't because I know that every single person I saw beat a child lost respect rather than gained it and it is shameful for an adult to have so little control over children that they have to resort to violence. And it doesn't take kids long to understand that there is a big difference between fear and respect.

[BrilloPad]

Consensus is yes but the punishment must fit the crime.

Why? It does not on cuk. Life is not fair.

[suityou01]

they only reached consensus because they were scared you were going to smack them if they didn't.

Who are you kidding. My kids outnumber us.

[suityou01]

ask them if they will smack their kids when they grow up.

Consensus is yes but the punishment must fit the crime.

[EternalOptimist]

I just took a straw poll from the SY spawn. The consensus is smacking is a last resort, and if the child has any sense they will stop on the second warning.

They are telling me it goes

1st warning
2nd warning
Send to bedroom
Confiscate toys
Get shouty
Mr and Mrs smack visit botty land.

ask them if they will smack their kids when they grow up.

[RedSauce]

I just took a straw poll from the SY spawn. The consensus is smacking is a last resort, and if the child has any sense they will stop on the second warning.

They are telling me it goes

1st warning
2nd warning
Send to bedroom
Confiscate toys
Get shouty
Mr and Mrs smack visit botty land.

they only reached consensus because they were scared you were going to smack them if they didn't.

[suityou01]

I just took a straw poll from the SY spawn. The consensus is smacking is a last resort, and if the child has any sense they will stop on the second warning.

They are telling me it goes

1st warning
2nd warning
Send to bedroom
Confiscate toys
Get shouty
Mr and Mrs smack visit botty land.

[suityou01]

A good old clipping round the ears did no harm to no kid. The problem these days with misbehaving kids and teenagers is that they are molly cuddled too much and have been bought up thinking they are the spawn of royals.

Totally this.

[fullyautomatix]

A good old clipping round the ears did no harm to no kid. The problem these days with misbehaving kids and teenagers is that they are molly cuddled too much and have been bought up thinking they are the spawn of royals.

[EternalOptimist]

Wanderer - whoooosh!

that was the point that was. going straight over yer head.

Lots of people feel the same as you do and want a ban on smacking with criminal sanctions

Lots of other people feel the same as you but want to keep the state out of their affairs

[Dallas]

We got the ruler at primary school - convent. I guess we were empowered by being given the choice: plastic. metal or wooden, hands or legs. They liked to give us a good shake too.

At home we got the 'i'll bang your bl@@dy heads together' which they did, the slipper or the belt.

we didnt know any different.

[Wanderer]

So if your kids make you angry then you should be allowed to hit them? What about all the other people who make us angry, are we allowed to hit them too? Or is it only the ones who are subservient and weaker than us that we are allowed to hit? Should other people be allowed to hit our children too or is that a privilege reserved for the parents? Remember when kids were beaten at school? Would you allow your school teachers to beat your kids?

I know a lot of parents think it's a good thing to hit their kids but there are far too many parents who take it too far and children grow up seeing violence as a normal and everyday thing perpetrated by strong/powerful people against weak/subservient people.

Hitting a child is no different to hitting an adult in my book. All people, regardless of age should be treated with respect and be entitled to live without the fear of violence being used against them. People who grow up with violence end up using violence against others.

[MarillionFan]

Some days it's the thought of a young MF getting a leathering that keeps me going.

Oh dear. Uncle Gadd been staying with you over Xmas I see.