Reply to: Skint mates

[vetran]

Has that been validated in the time honoured CUK way?

Here's a clue

You don't get anything for a pair, not in this game!

[formant]

I also think there is a reason why people need to borrow money and lending them it does not change the reason. So its not really a surprise when they dont have the money to pay you back.

Yeah, generally agree with this. Sure there are exceptional circumstances, but people shouldn't feel comfortable bothering friends for cash. We've had issues once during my partner's divorce, while he was waiting for the ancillary relief proceedings to be paid out of his old house. We'd bought our own place not realising just how long the proceedings would drag on thereafter. Both our parents helped out. I'd have never bothered friends. It takes a certain kind of person to even ask about borrowing money from friends.

[escapeUK]

I also think there is a reason why people need to borrow money and lending them it does not change the reason. So its not really a surprise when they dont have the money to pay you back.

I lent a mate £5000 to fund the purchase of computer equipment he was reselling to a university, was all supposed to have been repaid in 60 days. There was even a talk of interest, which I wasnt bothered about tbh. 6 Months later I had to make a big fuss about it to get my money back.

[norrahe]

Went to a restaurant with a group of people and we started ordering. One of the guys looked at the menu and ordered the soup starter for mains. As we got half way around the table someone enquired as to how we were splitting the bill. We agreed to split it equally. This guy then immediately drags the waiter over and changes his order to fillet steak!

Sorry won't do that again at grub club

If Mr N and I go out with whomever we generally split equally, I try and keep the place of choice as affordable as possible. But if I want to have a blow out then I generally pay and keep it to me and Mr N.

As for lending money, a big no-no.

[formant]

Definitely - she's been subjected to sexism, misogyny and lewd remarks. I think she qualifies as female.

Wahey!

[fullyautomatix]

Has that been validated in the time honoured CUK way?

Here's a clue

I dont want any more of the validations, they all turn out to be chicks with dicks in the end.

[SimonMac]

Has that been validated in the time honoured CUK way?

Here's a clue

http://farm7.staticflickr.com/6113/6...277df0a321.jpg

And another

http://images.fineartamerica.com/ima...im-weenink.jpg

[mudskipper]

Has that been validated in the time honoured CUK way?

Definitely - she's been subjected to sexism, misogyny and lewd remarks. I think she qualifies as female.

[Troll]

(I'm female though)

Has that been validated in the time honoured CUK way?

Here's a clue

[yasockie]

It is an issue. I'm very lucky to be very good at what I do and in turn get paid tulip loads to do it. I can't say many people spent the last 7 years of their 20s on 100k+ without working in the city.

I have friends who can't afford the rent while I know I could buy thier house with the cash I have sitting in the bank but you can't offer it save for offending them and throwing your cash around. Probably the reason I spend so little and drive and 8 year old car with 200k+ on the clock....helps me blend in to "normal" society.

Wow...that makes me sound like Dexter.

I've met a few industrialist, a couple of generations older than who built their empires starting as far back as 1920s (I'm talking the likes of Ingvar Kamprad).
Pretty much all of them said that at one point or the other they could have made even more money at the expense of the people that they employed and they didn't since they were earning enough so it didn't really matter. One even went ahead and said he felt a moral obligation to spend the money he'd been earning to give meaningful employment to as many people as he could.
I find that approach to be far more sensible than just spending on yachts (unless you're spending on ones with a crew) or donating to charity - in general just put the money back in the economy in the right way and in the process people will benefit (by having employment) and probably you will benefit as well.

[OwlHoot]

If you lend a mate a couple of quid and never hear from them again it's money well spent.

WHS

Also, if you lend someone a small amount of money, which they "forget" to repay, you can cite that when refusing to lend them any more if they have the cheek to ask.

[hyperD]

Went to a restaurant with a group of people and we started ordering. One of the guys looked at the menu and ordered the soup starter for mains. As we got half way around the table someone enquired as to how we were splitting the bill. We agreed to split it equally. This guy then immediately drags the waiter over and changes his order to fillet steak!

[Ketchup]

I went out for my friends birthday meal a few months ago, the bill came (and after the usual infuriating arguments about who had a started and who ate more of the olives) we agreed how much each of us were to pay, i foolishly agreed to collect the money, and 1 person didn't pay, i ended up footing the bill of someone who saw it as an opportunity to save a few quid.

[formant]

Yes, I'd do the same. After all, you might get a sh@g out of it

Haha! That's one way of looking at it.
(I'm female though, and not into the ladies...)

[Platypus]

I once helped a friend (?) buy a £250 car after hers broke down and she was totally desperate

Yes, I'd do the same. After all, you might get a sh@g out of it

She was about to get married

Oh. Then I wouldn't have helped her.