Reply to: Figures of hate

[Pogle]

It's good to hear you are getting along better.

While we are on this subject, I'd like to apologise to SY01 for inadventantly giving him the impression that I cared. Sorry mate.

PHEW - thank God for that, I was getting worried there Zipps - didnt sound like you at all

[Troll]

Nah mate. It's still you.

WHS +1

[pzz76077]

I'm not 100% sure that you actually read it

You said it was yours, but really, truly, did he build just a little bridge??

PZZ

[Spacecadet]

After an olive branch or two which I offered to him

I did, I detected that although you attitude to him had softened (mostly his olive branch), there are still some deep rooted issues there that need some work.

I'm not 100% sure that you actually read it

[Zippy]

It's good to hear you are getting along better.

While we are on this subject, I'd like to apologise to SY01 for inadventantly giving him the impression that I cared. Sorry mate.

[suityou01]

something about bumming him .... PZZ

FTFY

[pzz76077]

Did you read the rest of the thread?

I did, I detected that although you attitude to him had softened (mostly his olive branch), there are still some deep rooted issues there that need some work.

When you tell us that you have gone away on a discovery weekend together, only then will I know my work here is done....

PZZ

[Pondlife]

Given some of the fighting going on else where in the forum I thought I would ressurrect this thread with some good news.

After an olive branch or two which I offered to him, he's dropped his attitude towards me.
We're actually getting along pretty well now.

He's still a loudmouth f***er but at least it now feels as if we're on the same team.

Nah mate. It's still you.

[Spacecadet]

You don't have to like someone to work with them.

Be professional, leave your work at work and enjoy what little time off you have not thinking about work.

I cant say that I would ever think that someone is better off on the bench, maybe in a contract on a different continent, but never on the bench.

PZZ

Did you read the rest of the thread?

[pzz76077]

One of my co-workers on my current contract is one of the very few people I can say I actually hate.
Loud, abrasive, rude, revels in being as "working class" as possible and generally a complete pain in the arse.
Whats reallly annoying though is that everyone else on the project seems to like the f***er.

Given that he is also a contractor, what's the best way of getting him re-aquainted with the bench?

You don't have to like someone to work with them.

Be professional, leave your work at work and enjoy what little time off you have not thinking about work.

I cant say that I would ever think that someone is better off on the bench, maybe in a contract on a different continent, but never on the bench.

PZZ

[suityou01]

No barbed wire, I saw the opportunity to build a few bridges so I took them.

Careful, he might have you where he wants you

[Spacecadet]

Break it down. Bullies need victims. If you let them have their way, you are immediately and irretrievbly the victim.

I never really thought of him as a bully, only as a bit of a cock and potential sparring partner.
Either I'm a bad judge of character or he never crossed the line to make him a bully.
As I said in one of my posts, there were circumstances which may explain (although not excuse) his behaviour

Olive branches? Twined with barbed wire I hope.

No barbed wire, I saw the opportunity to build a few bridges so I took them.

[suityou01]

Given some of the fighting going on else where in the forum I thought I would ressurrect this thread with some good news.

After an olive branch or two which I offered to him, he's dropped his attitude towards me.
We're actually getting along pretty well now.

He's still a loudmouth f***er but at least it now feels as if we're on the same team.

Well done you. Zippy gave me some advice that really worked. Smarted a bit, but then when people care that's the kind of advice you get, truthful and helpful.

Advice was "Don't be such a victim"

Break it down. Bullies need victims. If you let them have their way, you are immediately and irretrievbly the victim.

Olive branches? Twined with barbed wire I hope.

TTFN


The new and improved SY01

[Spacecadet]

Given some of the fighting going on else where in the forum I thought I would ressurrect this thread with some good news.

After an olive branch or two which I offered to him, he's dropped his attitude towards me.
We're actually getting along pretty well now.

He's still a loudmouth f***er but at least it now feels as if we're on the same team.

[singhr]

smile and think of the money. Life is too short to hate, it only consumes you. Easier said than done, I once wished cancer on my line manager a few years ago cos he was stitching me up - not something I'm proud of.