Reply to: Am I being a Nobule ?

[Ravello]

Good shout EO, I think you've handled it well so far.

As others have said, it might be worth having a word with the relative and seeing if your lad is now worth the guy paying the money himself (or at least half).

If not, and should the worst happen make sure you've got enough to pay for X number of weeks after you're benched, where X is whatever number it takes to not look suspicious!

Whatever happens, I think you're right to keep it under your hat!

[Peoplesoft bloke]

That's a very New Labour way of creating jobs, EO.

and like most things New Labour, was invented by the Tories - remember YOPS/YTS?

[thelace]

You done good.

3 - 4 years training as a plasterer, he can buy himself a van and charge out as much as daddy does

There'll always be a need for builders and the like. OK the industry can be cyclical - can't they all though!

Could the plasterer look at getting a govt scheme to pay his wages?

[jkoder]

Is he not interested in I.T.? Couldn't you teach him some moves.

I think what you are doing is good for up to a year or so, providing he is learning enough to be able to find work with other builders after this.

[EternalOptimist]

Now he has some experience can't you get him to build an extension for you?

git would probably charge me.

[Pickle2]

Blimey.

By the way - I flunked 6th form and college

You tulip me, surley?

[MPwannadecentincome]

Now he has some experience can't you get him to build an extension for you?

[EternalOptimist]

Blimey.

This is a mad situation to be in.

What about things like insurance, NI and tax codes?

Sounds like the builder is getting nice free labour if he is coming along nicely.

Hence I would have a chat and suggest it could be sorted.

Also - think about how your son would feel if he knew that you were really paying for him!

Finally - maybe something like a work related NVQ would be good for both your son, plus the builder as he would get money for a trainee.

Hope things work out okay for you.

By the way - I flunked 6th form and college, and am now enjoying what I consider a good career with a tier one employer. Hence there is always hope!

Where can I buy a gun ?

[Wilmslow]

Blimey.

This is a mad situation to be in.

What about things like insurance, NI and tax codes?

Sounds like the builder is getting nice free labour if he is coming along nicely.

Hence I would have a chat and suggest it could be sorted.

Also - think about how your son would feel if he knew that you were really paying for him!

Finally - maybe something like a work related NVQ would be good for both your son, plus the builder as he would get money for a trainee.

Hope things work out okay for you.

By the way - I flunked 6th form and college, and am now enjoying what I consider a good career with a tier one employer. Hence there is always hope!

[EternalOptimist]

EO - you are letting out all your secrets in your postings in the past few days - was there some new years resolution you are trying to keep or is this all a wind up?

not a wind up.

its just that, one day you find
ten years have got behind you
no one told you when run
You missed the starting gun


did anyone see the bit about prog rock on the telly last night ? that was my era that was

[MPwannadecentincome]

EO - you are letting out all your secrets in your postings in the past few days - was there some new years resolution you are trying to keep or is this all a wind up?

[DiscoStu]

That's a very New Labour way of creating jobs, EO.

He's a socialist, burn him!

[Doggy Styles]

That's a very New Labour way of creating jobs, EO.

[OwlHoot]

I'd have a chat with builder and see whether lad can now pay his way. i.e. builder picks up tab?

and if not, and the builder has to lay him off, nobody need know you were forking out.

(Good stunt BTW - As you say, it gets him into the habit of working and picking up skills.)

[MaryPoppins]

My lad is just 18, his last year at school was a disaster, so his academic prospects are bleak. He was doing a course at the local college but it was one of those 'take you off the dole figures' type sh 1 te courses.

So I was chatting to a plasterer/ builder relative who has taken him on as a junior labourer at £100 pw. He has been at it now for five months or so and is enjoying it, his work ethic is coming on nicely.
Trouble is, I am bunging the builder the 100 quid , but I forgot to mention it to the missus , the lad or , well anyone.

My big fear is that if I get benched, the lad will be double-fked, and if the missus finds out, I will be treble fked

its a worry

Fc.uk. Can you approach the relative and ask him to start paying your son now? As for being benched, spose you will need to ensure your "just in case" pot now includes enough to pay that £100 a week...