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[Damp Cave]

Sounds like what usually happens

just as an aside

Brothers wife walked out on him & 4 young kids earlier this year to have an affair with a married man - set herself up in a flat (which she expected brother to contribute financially towards)

They put their house on the market and accepted an offer recently & divorce proceedings are underway citing unreasonable behaviour on his part.

Wife has now moved out of rented flat into a girlfriends place but is suggesting the following:

She should move back into ex family home to be with the kids (her lover has announced he will not leave his family) and Brother should move out to allow this

She is also voicing concerns that if they split the capital on the house sale then he would fritter it away leaving the kids with nothing, and therefore she
should get it all!!

His work commitments means the only non working day he has over Christmas is Christmas day itself, she turned up last week at the house saying she wanted kids on Christmas Day and he was being bl00dy selfish keeping kids from their mother on a special day


Anyone been through anything similar? my own view is that he should stay put and let the house sale go through.. not sure what happens if she refuses to go through with the sale though!!

About right.

[IR35 Avoider]

I know a contractor whose wife left the marital home to have an affair. After the divorce he had the home and custody of the children. The fact that she left and he was the one in the home looking after the children made a big difference.

[Bagpuss]

I just earwigged a conversation of two women about their modern family situation

"yes I told him he has to have him at 4pm, that way I win, he can only have him when I want him to, I won't let him win"

[Troll]

The kids are supposed to stay there. So more (or some) contact with them. Also courts will almost never order someone out without somewhere to go to.

I made the mistake of leaving and know several who have - no-one has ever said its been worth it.

I suspect that is why she is now trying to get back in

[BrilloPad]

Why not?

The kids are supposed to stay there. So more (or some) contact with them. Also courts will almost never order someone out without somewhere to go to.

I made the mistake of leaving and know several who have - no-one has ever said its been worth it.

[tay]

NEVER NEVER NEVER leave the marital home

Why not?

[Sockpuppet]

I could off her. I do have to charge VAT though.

[BrilloPad]

I would give advice.. but I suspect my advice would be tinged with a high level of ignorance as I suspect only someone who has gone through similar can relate with the emotions involved.

Must be a god awful situation.

Please don't get involved - keep your sanity. Its fine to see men taken to the brink of suicide (at best) - but the affect on children is really distressing...

[BrilloPad]

If you know divorce is on the cards what's to stop you from giving away your assets to a family member and them gifting you them back afterwards, or 'loaning' you the money?

They usually go back a year - unless any suspicion of foul play like above. well - obviously women are perfect and can do what they want - but men get heavily peanilized.

[BrilloPad]

just as an aside

Brothers wife walked out on him & 4 young kids earlier this year to have an affair with a married man - set herself up in a flat (which she expected brother to contribute financially towards)

They put their house on the market and accepted an offer recently & divorce proceedings are underway citing unreasonable behaviour on his part.

Wife has now moved out of rented flat into a girlfriends place but is suggesting the following:

She should move back into ex family home to be with the kids (her lover has announced he will not leave his family) and Brother should move out to allow this

She is also voicing concerns that if they split the capital on the house sale then he would fritter it away leaving the kids with nothing, and therefore she
should get it all!!

His work commitments means the only non working day he has over Christmas is Christmas day itself, she turned up last week at the house saying she wanted kids on Christmas Day and he was being bl00dy selfish keeping kids from their mother on a special day


Anyone been through anything similar? my own view is that he should stay put and let the house sale go through.. not sure what happens if she refuses to go through with the sale though!!

NEVER NEVER NEVER leave the marital home - Troll you give excellent advice. Not much of a troll really are you! :-)

[Bagpuss]

If you know divorce is on the cards what's to stop you from giving away your assets to a family member and them gifting you them back afterwards, or 'loaning' you the money?

[tay]

Yes but as result of this topic I have this strange emotion that I am very unfamiliar with arising within me..... I think its called empathy

[Pondlife]

I would give advice.. but I suspect my advice would be tinged with a high level of ignorance

Eh, when has that ever made any difference on here? It's what we do best.

How do you think AtW has such a high post count?

[tay]

I would give advice.. but I suspect my advice would be tinged with a high level of ignorance as I suspect only someone who has gone through similar can relate with the emotions involved.

Must be a god awful situation.

[robnjc]

He should stick to his guns and seek legal advice pdq. She's deserted him and the children once, she's obviously fickle, who's to say she will do not it again, plus making unreasonable demands about Xmas.