Reply to: Jealousy - family etc

[BR14]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPvRsLWlDXw

[milanbenes]

ROTFLMFAO



Milan.

[northernladyuk]

well each to their own as long as he doesn't tell us about it

Milan.

FTFY

[milanbenes]

I'm not sure PC's MiL is an owner occupier, given his Jeremy Kyle Show lifestyle.

well each to their own as long as he's happy

Milan.

[northernladyuk]

how much is her house worth

just keep an account of it and put in an invoice when the time comes

plus vat of course

Milan.

I'm not sure PC's MiL is an owner occupier, given his Jeremy Kyle Show lifestyle.

[milanbenes]

My MIL does that. Often we take her away for the weekend with the kids. I dont expect her to pay and she doesnt but its a bit much when she assumes this and doesnt even take any money or purse away with her. Winds me up that does a bit - at least have a few quid to buy your grandkids an icecream.

how much is her house worth

just keep an account of it and put in an invoice when the time comes

plus vat of course

Milan.

[psychocandy]

infact in our family, there is a tradition of trying to be the poorest so you don't have to get a round in and this goes through the generations

as an uncle (a farmer no less) said to me and my brothers a couple of years ago at our Gran's 95'th birthday party, when we asked him to buy us a beer he showed his empty pockets and said he hasn't got any money, we all chortled and bought him a beer

Milan.

My MIL does that. Often we take her away for the weekend with the kids. I dont expect her to pay and she doesnt but its a bit much when she assumes this and doesnt even take any money or purse away with her. Winds me up that does a bit - at least have a few quid to buy your grandkids an icecream.

[milanbenes]

Where the issues come from non-blood relatives, I'd suggest it comes from people being nice or not rather than being from a "lower level".

Where the issues come from blood relatives, then class (generally) has nothing to do with it.

Hi FaQQer,

great to see you have you finished the FAQ yet ?

Ok, back to business, I agree and add that levels could influence aggravating the situation.

For example, what's his name said that he is from a Royal family and this gets on his sister in law's tits

Milan.

[TheFaQQer]

regarding these family issues discussed in this thread, especially the jealousy, are those behaviours magnified as a result of marrying into a (how to say it) lower level ?

I guess if you marry into the same/similar level or higher you wouldn't have this, I don't and I married into a similar level family

Infact my wife's close and more distant family are very very welcoming and helpful and supportive and well, family like.

Milan.

Where the issues come from non-blood relatives, I'd suggest it comes from people being nice or not rather than being from a "lower level".

Where the issues come from blood relatives, then class (generally) has nothing to do with it.

[milanbenes]

infact in our family, there is a tradition of trying to be the poorest so you don't have to get a round in and this goes through the generations

as an uncle (a farmer no less) said to me and my brothers a couple of years ago at our Gran's 95'th birthday party, when we asked him to buy us a beer he showed his empty pockets and said he hasn't got any money, we all chortled and bought him a beer

Milan.

[TheFaQQer]

thanks NLUK

yes I would classify my situation the same and that of my brothers too.

Milan.

NLyUK

[milanbenes]

The other half and I were born into what you might call skilled 'respectable' working class families that valued education, and they've always been delighted that we do OK for ourselves.

thanks NLUK

yes I would classify my situation the same and that of my brothers too.

Milan.

[northernladyuk]

regarding these family issues discussed in this thread, especially the jealousy, are those behaviours magnified as a result of marrying into a (how to say it) lower level ?

I guess if you marry into the same/similar level or higher you wouldn't have this, I don't and I married into a similar level family

Infact my wife's close and more distant family are very very welcoming and helpful and supportive and well, family like.

Milan.

The other half and I were born into what you might call skilled 'respectable' working class families that valued education, and they've always been delighted that we do OK for ourselves.

[milanbenes]

regarding these family issues discussed in this thread, especially the jealousy, are those behaviours magnified as a result of marrying into a (how to say it) lower level ?

I guess if you marry into the same/similar level or higher you wouldn't have this, I don't and I married into a similar level family

Infact my wife's close and more distant family are very very welcoming and helpful and supportive and well, family like.

Milan.

[PhiltheGreek]

Following on my comment about family expecting presents from holidays.

Make sure I NEVER tell family how much I earn. They do my head in. I'm not that loaded but we do OK. Wife only works part-time as a monarch so her income is not massive. But, we do have nice holidays and the rest of the family know this.

Number of times I've been called LUCKY. Pisses me right off. Don't speak to wife's sister because shes got a massive chip on her shoulder how we've got things that she hasn't. But apparently its because I'm lucky.

She left school with zero qualifications, I went to naval college. Of course (and shes said it), I get paid for opening bridges not doing real work.

Many times I'm tempted to say well you should have listened in school but my mrs wont let me!

Anyone else get this?

BTW. I certainly was not brought up with silver spoon in my mouth. My upbringing/background probably could not have been worse/disadvantageous to be honest. Come from a very poor royal family - which I guess is why my dear sister in law winds me up so much.

This is so similar to my life story it is spooky.