Reply to: The rise of the post-nup

[BrilloPad]

Like an open marriage?

A friend of mine complained to his father that his wife committed infidelity. His dad told him that the other bloke would not wear it out.....

[SueEllen]

It does not apply both ways. Women are presumed to stay at home and not work.

It does work both ways unless you are a heiress - not all couples who divorce have children or children under 18.

Sorry I know bitter women as well as men.

[Jog On]

Try being like the queen. She expects loyalty. Not fidelity.....

Like an open marriage?

[Jog On]

Throw in 'SJW', very good - wouldn't want to give a typical response.

Anyway, I did take you for a nutjob, so well done for confirming.

Hey I'm just doing what I have to do to keep my marriage 'interesting'. From my research it's less doing the dishes and more going to the gym and reading books like 'no more mr nice guy'...

It works as well - which is all I really care about

[northernladyuk]

As in have I experienced infidelity from someone I care about? - Yes I have.

Nice to see the typical response to any mention of red pill and MGTOW though. Didn't take you for an SJW...

You can't have 'selective equality'

Throw in 'SJW', very good - wouldn't want to give a typical response.

Anyway, I did take you for a nutjob, so well done for confirming.

[BrilloPad]

As in have I experienced infidelity from someone I care about? - Yes I have.

Nice to see the typical response to any mention of red pill and MGTOW though. Didn't take you for an SJW...

You can't have 'selective equality'

Try being like the queen. She expects loyalty. Not fidelity.....

[Jog On]

You are quite damaged, aren't you?

As in have I experienced infidelity from someone I care about? - Yes I have.

Nice to see the typical response to any mention of red pill and MGTOW though. Didn't take you for an SJW...

You can't have 'selective equality'

[northernladyuk]

Does this apply both ways? I do hope so otherwise it will just drive more men toward the red pill and MGTOW.

Let's not see all this equal rights campaigning fall on deaf ears - women cheat as well...

You are quite damaged, aren't you?

[BrilloPad]

Does this apply both ways? I do hope so otherwise it will just drive more men toward the red pill and MGTOW.

Let's not see all this equal rights campaigning fall on deaf ears - women cheat as well...

It does not apply both ways. Women are presumed to stay at home and not work.

All the women who work should give up now, make home and have babies.

HTH

[Jog On]

Does this apply both ways? I do hope so otherwise it will just drive more men toward the red pill and MGTOW.

Let's not see all this equal rights campaigning fall on deaf ears - women cheat as well...

[shaunbhoy]

If you are married for a decade or more without children then it is presumed if you are the high earner that the lower earner helped you amass the joint assets even if they didn't work at all during the time you were married.

Which is a fundamentally flawed notion.
Whilst that CAN be the case, each case can be radically different and it ought to be individually assessed.
Of course that might not be seen as "fair" in these enlightened times.

[northernladyuk]

Up until 1969 it was equally skewed towards the man.

Often marriage changes people.

Slowly, people are waking up and marriage is going out of fashion. So now the family courts are trying to get involved where couples just live together!

Shakespeare had it right - first lets kill all the lawyers.....

Shakespeare had it right - Villain, I have done thy mother.

[NotAllThere]

Are people lacking such self awareness that they don't understand that they can get to know someone - which takes years to even scratch the surface - prior to considering marriage?

I know couples who got married after knowing each other 6 months who are still married 25+ years later, and couples who waited years who are now divorced.

Exactly.

I married my wife 27 years ago having known her for 3 years. We've spent that time getting to know each other more. It's possible to do that within marriage. I think maybe some folk don't quite understand the fact that their spouse is going to change as a person - perhaps not according to their designs - over the years.

According to figure 1a here number of marriages has been declining slowly since 1969. The main driver in my view is that there's nothing the least bit shocking anymore about an unmarried couple not intending to marry.

[greenlake]

There is a good reason why he has 3 ex-wives and until he works that out he's going to go through another divorce.

As long as he remembers to divorce each one before he marries again....

[SueEllen]

In my last contract I met a gent who was on his fourth wife.

Are people lacking such self awareness that they don't understand that they can get to know someone - which takes years to even scratch the surface - prior to considering marriage?

It's called hope over experience or simply being an idiot. There is a good reason why he has 3 ex-wives and until he works that out he's going to go through another divorce.

It certainly seems unfairly skewed towards the female in the UK, which often seems fair when children are involved. Just two people, the couple, then the women successfully claiming earnings after the marriage has ended simply seems insane, to me.

Marriage is a partnership. If you are married for a decade or more without children then it is presumed if you are the high earner that the lower earner helped you amass the joint assets even if they didn't work at all during the time you were married.

Encourages me never to marry without many years of thought into it.

Unfortunately life doesn't work like that.

I know couples who got married after knowing each other 6 months who are still married 25+ years later, and couples who waited years who are now divorced.