Reply to: Divorce retreat

[vetran]

I fantasised about a future where my ex and I co-parented

Translation

I fantasised about a future where my ex still paid for everything and put up with my tulip so he got to see his kids. I of course can act like a DIVA any time I want.

[FatLazyContractor]

Then again got another mate who regularly has got 4-5 other women on the go and hes still married. She just never caught him YET.

Explains why BP was supporting you on the other thread .....

[psychocandy]

Oh dear.

So she gets pissed off and divorces her husband because no doubt he was starting to enjoy his life as the kids were growing up and she suddenly realised she could not control him.

And now she is miserable because she cannot find another partner.

She needs to look at who she really is, what she really wants and how she portrays that to the world - and then have a good hard think about how attractive that would be to a potential partner.

Sounds about right. No mention of new partner for her it seems and she seems a bit gutted that ex has.

Seems a bit much when she filed for divorce in the first place. Whats she got to be angry about? It was her choice.

Got a few friends this happened to. Get to late 30s and suddenly they think they can do better. Always a reason why the husband is wrong but the wife doesnt give a tulipe that its ruining his life, access to kids etc. Then when husband gets new partner they dont like it.

Then again got another mate who regularly has got 4-5 other women on the go and hes still married. She just never caught him YET.

[original PM]

Oh dear.

So she gets pissed off and divorces her husband because no doubt he was starting to enjoy his life as the kids were growing up and she suddenly realised she could not control him.

And now she is miserable because she cannot find another partner.

She needs to look at who she really is, what she really wants and how she portrays that to the world - and then have a good hard think about how attractive that would be to a potential partner.

[MrMarkyMark]

Have you lost one of your ex-wives to an immigrant? Are the grapes sour?

Painful, so I hear

[FatLazyContractor]

Damned immigrants coming over here with their high morals. Send em all home.

Have you lost one of your ex-wives to an immigrant? Are the grapes sour?

[TestMangler]

Sounds like an Accenture presentation

And every bit as pointless too, no doubt.

[BrilloPad]

More like immigration has risen and those cultures believe in marriage for life.

Damned immigrants coming over here with their high morals. Send em all home.

[VectraMan]

More like immigration has risen and those cultures believe in marriage for citizenship.

FTFY.

[vetran]

It used to much higher... Its on a downwards trend as the council estate princesses just go direct to parenting now and skip the whole marriage thing...

More like immigration has risen and those cultures believe in marriage for life.

[MrMarkyMark]

five star hotel in Horsham, is calm and businesslike, with a flip chart and projector in evidence. Seven women and two men sit around a square of tables, with booklets, stationary and water neatly arranged.

Sounds like an Accenture presentation

[BABABlackSheep]

Married for 12 years, no children.

I often joked with my wife, that if we got divorced she would get 50% of everything I owned, and I would STILL be better off because of her spending.

You know, I was right

[vetran]

Four years after separating from my husband, Mark, I still get feelings of uncontrollable rage whenever I hear about the latest holiday or somesuch he and his girlfriend are on, and the little voice inside my head screams, “It’s not FAIR!”

amuses me when I hear this

[dx4100]

42% of marriages end in divorce. Blimey, I'd no idea it was that high.

It used to much higher... Its on a downwards trend as the council estate princesses just go direct to parenting now and skip the whole marriage thing...

[vetran]

After Mark and I separated, although on the outside I appeared to be holding everything together for the children, who live with me full time, for a long time after our split I drank too much and ate too little, spent days in bed crying, was consumed with guilt and shame that I had failed my children.

I fantasised about a future where my ex and I co-parented, showing solidarity as our children graduated or got married. But if he came to the house to see them I would hide in my bedroom, and if he phoned I was paralysed just by seeing his name flash up on the screen.

watch them bunnies