Reply to: Unwritten rules question - true story.

[d000hg]

I meant that men are more likely to forgive their wives having a relationship with another man if no sex is involved than they are to forgive a one night stand.

erm that's called being friends - which is fine?

Most people don't have an emotionally intimate relationship with their friends, sharing secrets, etc. Intimacy is the thing.

Of course some people do, and women are often that intimate with women friends, but good friends falling into something deeper is pretty common both as a way for couples to get together, and for marriages to get broken - intimacy of one kind tends to lead to intimacy of another.

[original PM]

Shirley her hand would fall off?

:sigh: off the wrist then - pedant!

I'm with Winston on this
jaw jaw is better than paw paw

I agree....

But generally the only reason a man is friends with a woman is because she won't have sex with him.....

probably

[EternalOptimist]

Shirley her hand would fall off?

I'm with Winston on this
jaw jaw is better than paw paw

[tractor]

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erm that's called being friends - which is fine?

or do you mean no sex but she occasionally gives him one of the wrist?

Shirley her hand would fall off?

[original PM]

I meant that men are more likely to forgive their wives having a relationship with another man if no sex is involved than they are to forgive a one night stand.

erm that's called being friends - which is fine?

or do you mean no sex but she occasionally gives him one of the wrist?

[mudskipper]

I've heard this too - a random bonk implies less intimacy than a real connection even without sex being involvedI don't think that's true other than for Neanderthal types

I meant that men are more likely to forgive their wives having a relationship with another man if no sex is involved than they are to forgive a one night stand.

[d000hg]

I'm sure I read somewhere that (generalisation) women will often forgive their husbands a one night stand, but find the idea of them having a close relationship with another woman much harder,

I've heard this too - a random bonk implies less intimacy than a real connection even without sex being involved

where as men don't really care about a relationship as long as there's no sex.

I don't think that's true other than for Neanderthal types

[darmstadt]

I'm sure I read somewhere that (generalisation) women will often forgive their husbands a one night stand, but find the idea of them having a close relationship with another woman much harder, where as men don't really care about a relationship as long as there's no sex.

Do you mean a man doesn't care about a woman having a relationship as long as there's no sex because if you're talking about the man having the relationship then I think thats primarily all the man cares about

[mudskipper]

He admitted it. In his mind he'd done 'nothing wrong' since he'd not had full blown sex with the other woman while married.

I'm sure I read somewhere that (generalisation) women will often forgive their husbands a one night stand, but find the idea of them having a close relationship with another woman much harder, where as men don't really care about a relationship as long as there's no sex.

[darrylmg]

Sure you can.

What's ****ing got to do with it? You can **** without it meaning anything and you can be in a serious relationship without any ****.

The odds are, something was going on but it's not unequivocal. What they define as "serious relationship" may be open for interpretation too. Are they living together or planning to marry?

Facebook status has probably been updated.

[d000hg]

The first isn't something I'm familiar with

Who wants to fill her in?

[MaryPoppins]

Full "blown sex" or "full blown" sex?

The first isn't something I'm familiar with

[d000hg]

he'd not had full blown sex with the other woman while married.

Full "blown sex" or "full blown" sex?

[MaryPoppins]

How would you even find that out?

He admitted it. In his mind he'd done 'nothing wrong' since he'd not had full blown sex with the other woman while married.

[Zippy]

and they called me a slapper

Only behind your back.