Sexism - in action

[MaryPoppins]

Works a charm every time.

Also looking him up and down in a disparaging way and grimacing at what he's wearing is always good.

Calling him on his behaviour and embarrassing him in public, he'll leave you alone pretty quickly

Will try it. Do you couple the above with telling him you can smell p1ss?

[EternalOptimist]

Works a charm every time.

Also looking him up and down in a disparaging way and grimacing at what he's wearing is always good.

Calling him on his behaviour and embarrassing him in public, he'll leave you alone pretty quickly

but never take any food or drink from him or his mates , evah, evah.
especially semolina

[Old Greg]

Put gay porn on his PC and report him.

[norrahe]

Will try it. Do you couple the above with telling him you can smell p1ss?

I have never been that cruel ( not that I can remember).

Is he also the type who will have a conversation with your breasts rather than looking you in the face?

That's also good fodder for embarrassing them, you can converse with him while staring at his crotch if he comes to your desk or pointing out loudly that your breasts don't talk (yet).

[DodgyAgent]

I'm working in a new role and have regular contact with a bloke whose actions are starting to make it difficult to get my job done, at times. He treats the women in the office hugely different to the men.

Examples of recent stuff:

- Interrupting a meeting between me and one other to lean his head round the door and say 'Mary, sweets, are we still Ok for 2pm?'. I nod and ask if he'd like to have the meeting at my desk. As I've phrased it 'Yes. Would you like to do it at my desk?' he leers in an exaggerated manner and rolls his eyes at the other person in my meeting, saying he wondered when I was going to ask.

- Calling me [and I think, the few other women about the place] 'sweets' constantly.

- Commenting on my clothes, make up, hair, shoes etc in the middle of 1:1 meetings.

None of the above stuff, or the other little things he does, upset me - it just serves to constantly, and subtly undermine me. I suspect his behaviours stem from a combination of inate sexism, and the fact that he's trying to divert me away from how crap he is at his job.

So far the only thing I've done to address it is ask politely in a meeting [between the two of us] that he please stop calling me 'sweets'. I did follow it up with a glare but he simply suggested he swap the nickname to 'honey'. I suggested that I might start to think of nicknames of my own for him, that he might not warm to either.

Advise please, dear posters??

Contact admin and get them to ban the offender
Another ban for MF?

[Mich the Tester]

Put viagra in his coffee just before he gives a presentation.

[Platypus]

I sometimes read another forum called "Permanent UK" (PUK) and by a strange coincidence I found this post this morning:

I'm a permie working in a role and have regular contact with a contractor whose actions are starting to make it difficult to get my job done, at times. She is fiercely anti-men and employs passive-aggressive mannerisms and phrases to disconcert me.

Examples of recent stuff:

- As I walked past a meeting room, I saw her gesticulating at me to come in, so I did and politely asked her if we were still ok to meet at 2pm, what with her being so busy. She replied 'Would you like to do it at my desk?' Well I was so shocked I didn’t quite know what to say. This type of sexual suggestiveness is completely against all office etiquette and business conduct guidelines. Out of sheer embarrassment I pulled a face (although God know what it looked like) and glanced at the other person in the meeting room trying to express my discomfort by raising my eyebrows. I can’t tell you I was glad to get out of there.

- I have a memory problem, medically recognised: I can’t remember people’s names. So I tend to address male colleagues as “mate” and female as “sweets”. I used to use “dear” but I was pulled up by female colleagues who found this patronising and implied they are old ladies. She suggested “sweets” is polite and neutral.

- I tried to break the ice in a 1:1 meeting with some simple inoffensive pleasantries about her clothes, make up, hair, shoes etc. I’ve never been glared at so hard in all my life. She shook her head and tutted to boot. I felt very emasculated.

None of the above stuff, or the other little things she does, upset me - it just serves to constantly, and subtly undermine me. I suspect her behaviours stem from a combination of inate man-hate, and the fact that she's trying to divert me away from how crap she is at her job.

So far the only thing I've done to address it is ask politely in a meeting [between the two of us] that I can call her 'sweets' because I’m so terrible with names. She refused and gave me an awful glare. I explained the problem and suggested “honey”. She aggressively suggested that she would find some unpleasant names for me that allude to the fact that I am slightly overweight and, I have to admit, that I do sweat somewhat in this warm weather.

Advice please, dear posters??

Mary, I have to ask, are you sure you've read your situation correctly?

[norrahe]

Put gay porn on his PC and report him.

I put the equivalent of gay page 3 on all the guys desks in my department when they used to stick page 3 on my desk every morning.

Also when dragged to a "late night bar" which turned out to be a pretty grimy strip joint ( wouldn't have minded if it was somewhere nice), I waited till one of them put his card behind the bar and then ordered several bottles of champagne.

[MaryPoppins]

I sometimes read another forum called "Permanent UK" (PUK) and by a strange coincidence I found this post this morning:



Mary, I have to ask, are you sure you've read your situation correctly?

Excellent!!

[doodab]

Also when dragged to a "late night bar" which turned out to be a pretty grimy strip joint ( wouldn't have minded if it was somewhere nice), I waited till one of them put his card behind the bar and then ordered several bottles of champagne.

That can get expensive, even by contractor standards....