Objecting to a wedding?

[jmo21]

MORE disgusting than brother and sister???!

"but there may be religious reasons"

So are there, or not?

I doubt they're going to come looking on this forum, so just tell us what the problem is.

[AtW]

If there is no legal reason why they can't get married, and you object during the ceremony, you will kicked into the kerb.

FTFY

[wim121]

Nothing. The reasons for banns of marriage being read out is due to the strong possibility in olden days that Brothers and Sisters would try to marry each other. Up to the 1950's adoption was often done on the QT so the church needed to check that x and y were not directly related.

I feared as much and can only find things such as the person committing a crime by being already married or mrrying an immediate blood relative.

wim spent his youth working in offices full of hot young gay men and he never had the confidence to get any boy action. The rest is just the clockwork of personal disintegration.

Hahaha fat chance.

What could possibly be so terrible that you'd want to go to those lengths to try and stop someone getting married?

Live and let live FFS. (isn't that the motto we all live by in General?)

As I said, no-one approves and other family members are even looking at changing their surname so they arent associated with that family member. The entire behaviour is causing them to be disowned by everyone. I wasnt too fond of the deceased, but I feel disgusted she is being dishonoured as are the remaining family members. I may not have liked her, but she was a mother at the end of the day and deserved better than this.

It is difficult to explain without revealing too much info, but some of the highlights/lowlights include:
- The proposed groom shacking up with this person when his deceased wife wasnt yet cold and all the children were still deeply upset at the parents passing.
- Insulting others in the family for years; condemning others for lacking catholic values as they see it, for instance which makes them out to be a hypocrite.
- Deciding on getting married after a few weeks of seeing each other and announcing it in an attempt to dis-rail one of their child's wedding which is being planned.
- Them phoning the childs in-laws and pouring poison down.
- When that didn't work, they showed up at the planning of the child's wedding (when the child and their partner have a lovely family. etc) and being rude, flouncing around to the point that the most liberal and accepting people turned away in disgust.
- Not even introducing the proposed bride to anyone in the family at all and trying to surprise family members while they are still crying after losing their mother. Luckily we found out a couple of days beforehand off another source as the proposed groom did this in a deliberate attempt to make another one of his daughters cry (OH) and probably to try to get me to knock his lights out. When they saw that display wasnt working, the insults started flying but we managed to stay mute until a future semi-in-law said something. It wasnt a way for anyone to behave at a joyous time of planning a couples wedding and not acceptable from a parent.
- The proposed bride being mistaken in public for the daughters (only one left at home) lesbian lover due to the inappropriate fondling of each other in public, not letting go of each other, inappropriate kissing and hand holding, the kind of stuff you do when you're a teenager and get asked to leave the cinema over. Everyone comes up and says " ohh I always thought *insert-name-o-daughter* was gay, glad to see she came out", which then has to be explained with the truth which is then met by people being confused, turning to disgust, as they still remember the funeral as it wasnt long ago.

As I said, it is really hard to talk about this without giving away too much information.


However, we have an other lovely wedding to look forward to, between two lovely people and the other partners family are lovely people and dont want this spoiling that any further, so one thing at a time.

[MarillionFan]

Just boycott the wedding.

[wim121]

MORE disgusting than brother and sister???

I doubt they're going to come looking on this forum, so just tell us what the problem is.

Yes, I would prefer brother and sister, to this warped incestuous threesome thrusted upon a grieving family in a deliberate attempt to upset people,

This is Wim remember, everyone has to live by his moral code.

No, just to some form of acceptable behaviour in public.

Why would anyone want a total twat like you at their wedding anyway?

SB, JMO touched upon why I was being so coy, but you never know the feelings of those you meet and know. As I said, we have been thanked for our efforts and regularly get regarded as caring when it comes to family and friends because we try to do our best by them.

We may all have different political opinions, but you seem to think you would meet me and think I was an arse, you wouldnt, because I dont behave like that or treat anyone I like in that manner.

If there is no legal reason why they can't get married, and you object during the ceremony, you could yourself be taken to court.

Yes I have seen that in my searching around. There isnt a legal reason. The only thing I can do is have a word with the local priest and get them barred from marrying in a church, but that wont stop them.

[wim121]

Just boycott the wedding.

Yes, most people have said they dont want any part of it. I think that is going to be the only option, objecting to it by lack of turnout.

I just think it is so bad by what has been said and done to someones own flesh and blood over their own plans, make me feel a little sick. Also they could have got together after reasonable time had passed and they introduced their "friend" to everyone slowly, but it is unacceptable within the traditional year of mourning in a largely devout catholic family to then instantly jump in bed with someone else.

It is just so sad really and even though Ive never been their biggest fan, why on earth do such horrible things to the ones you should love!

[bless 'em all]

Yes, most people have said they dont want any part of it. I think that is going to be the only option, objecting to it by lack of turnout.

I just think it is so bad by what has been said and done to someones own flesh and blood over their own plans, make me feel a little sick. Also they could have got together after reasonable time had passed and they introduced their "friend" to everyone slowly, but it is unacceptable within the traditional year of mourning in a largely devout catholic family to then instantly jump in bed with someone else.

It is just so sad really and even though Ive never been their biggest fan, why on earth do such horrible things to the ones you should love!

Grief can do strange things to people. It's not a situation I'd like to have to deal with. Whatever you choose there will be someone hurt, better to make sure it's not those closest to you.

[OwlHoot]

What could possibly be so terrible that you'd want to go to those lengths to try and stop someone getting married? ...

Losing an inheritance from a rich 90 year old aunt who just announced she would be marrying a strapping young 18 year old Nigerian tribesman, and leaving her fortune to the tribe?

[NickFitz]

The bad news is, the families don't approve

The good news is, it'll be the first ever episode of Big Fat Gypsy Weddings featuring a union between an Irish tinker and a Romany

[BrilloPad]

When my daughter marries I will object. She will be my little girl forever. Even if she is 50.

I intend to strip naked and run round the wedding venue - that should stop it!