Are 'polyamorous' open relationships possible?

[BrilloPad]

BBC News - Is it possible to have a happy open marriage?

I can understand couples allowing infedility. But I cannot understand the disloyalty of a polyamorous relationship.

[stek]

BBC News - Is it possible to have a happy open marriage?

I can understand couples allowing infedility. But I cannot understand the disloyalty of a polyamorous relationship.

For me, I can't understand either. I could not forgive any straying at all, even if it was me!

[Fishface]

Frubble.

Wibble.

[KimberleyChris]

"Serial Monogamy" seems to be more realistic for humans.

Accepting from the outset that a 1:1 may not last forever.

But often they do, which is nice.

[Bacchus]

<threaddrift>"Jenny Block" is a very unfortunate name for a writer </threaddrift>

[wim121]

But I cannot understand the disloyalty of a polyamorous relationship.

Not my kinda thing either.

But it is so much more common than one would ever think and the couples far from what you would believe.

Anyone working in IT, will probably be well aware of this. People are less stringent on personal machines, but even on work machines, aside from the standard porn, Ive seen happily married couples with kids going on swinger events, pictures of numerous different partners with the original partner watching, leathers and gimpy outfits, etc etc.

In fact, seeing what people get up to in their free time goes well beyond hardcore porn (which Im not a fan of anyway). I dont look as it's not my thing, but you cant help but notice when transferring entire drives full of the stuff.



In fact, the number of people that practise in standard monogamous sex, seem to be in the minority from what Ive seen.

[wim121]

"Serial Monogamy" seems to be more realistic for humans.

Accepting from the outset that a 1:1 may not last forever.

But often they don't, which is nice.

How heartless of you!


You are wrong though, that is why I corrected you. Monogamous relationships rarely last. Approximately 2/3 of all marriages end in divorce. In some cultures/areas/demographics within the west (UK/US) the odds of divorce peak at well over 90%.

So maybe there is some sense in it after all? However as I said, not my cup of tea.

[KimberleyChris]

Well, me and the dragon have been together for 25 years now. Maybe it's just because we were lucky, or (more likely) nobody else would have us.

We have both stepped over the line once, but you just get over it.

Perhaps it's the old 'seven year itch'. It's a bit like musical chairs...if you feel the restless need to suggest an open marriage to your partner, perhaps it's time for the music.

[sasguru]

I'd like AtW to contribute to thsi thread. lack of knowledge about subject matter hasn;t stopped him before.

[Halo Jones]

BBC News - Is it possible to have a happy open marriage?

I can understand couples allowing infedility. But I cannot understand the disloyalty of a polyamorous relationship.

Knowing a few people in poly relationships I would not class it as disloyal, most (generalising here) poly relationships are exceptionally open with lots of discussions about boundaries & acceptable behaviour: how can you be disloyal if you act within pre-agreed parameters?

Poly is not for everyone, just as a specific religion or philosophy is not for everyone, if it works for them then leave them to it.

Just to note: from the comments a few posters on here have made some of you would not be adverse if your wife / partner turned round & said she wanted to have a girlfriend as well as you: that’s a variation of poly