How much rent should a teenager pay?

[zamzummim]

Sometimes pushing your kids out of their comfort zone is the best thing for them, I remember when my brother was still living at home while he was earning good money (in IT) he was pushed to move out and get his own place, that was the early nineties, he managed to get a good mortgage and buy himself a small modest flat, no idea why because he could have afforded a good 2/3 bed house, it was early nineties and property prices were quite low, within a few years his property price increased from £45K to £120K, he managed to pay the original mortgage easily and had a decent amount of money when he decided to get married … so pushing him out was good for him financially.

[wim121]

You have issues matey!

Suggesting that once your children become working adults, they get a flavour of paying their own way in life, is anything but "callous".
In future, I'd advise not posting quite so close to "Last Orders".

HTH

You think I have issues? Did you fail to read the posts in this thread?

The OP suggests taking a 1/3 of a teenager’s meagre wages. £80 is only enough to cover bus/train fares, clothes and if anything is left over, some socialising. To then suggest taking money off this youth who is trying to find their feet is disgusting.


I was just explaining in my post, how you can instil financial common sense and a sense of reciprocation in a child without taking their hard earned money away by force. It isn’t rocket science. It's mutual family respect and by demanding rent off a family member, that child is forced to pay money, rather than contributing out of gratefulness and honouring their parents.





Also I did try to keep my post on the issue of charging a teenager rent, rather than resorting to a petty personal attack like you did. Can’t you grow up and just discuss the subject of the thread like everyone else is? I would suggest you are the one with issues if you think this kind of behaviour is acceptable. Since when is supporting theft or holding a family member to ransom a sign of someone without issues?

I didn’t even respond to post #4, because quite frankly, I wouldn’t be able to ask, without causing offence, how a parent can take money from a baby that doesn’t even understand the concept of money or even say the word?

[Churchill]

You think I have issues? Did you fail to read the posts in this thread?

The OP suggests taking a 1/3 of a teenager’s meagre wages. £80 is only enough to cover bus/train fares, clothes and if anything is left over, some socialising. To then suggest taking money off this youth who is trying to find their feet is disgusting.


I was just explaining in my post, how you can instil financial common sense and a sense of reciprocation in a child without taking their hard earned money away by force. It isn’t rocket science. It's mutual family respect and by demanding rent off a family member, that child is forced to pay money, rather than contributing out of gratefulness and honouring their parents.





Also I did try to keep my post on the issue of charging a teenager rent, rather than resorting to a petty personal attack like you did. Can’t you grow up and just discuss the subject of the thread like everyone else is? I would suggest you are the one with issues if you think this kind of behaviour is acceptable. Since when is supporting theft or holding a family member to ransom a sign of someone without issues?

I didn’t even respond to post #4, because quite frankly, I wouldn’t be able to ask, without causing offence, how a parent can take money from a baby that doesn’t even understand the concept of money or even say the word?

You're new here, aren't you?

You'll get used to it.

[cailin maith]

I didn’t even respond to post #4, because quite frankly, I wouldn’t be able to ask, without causing offence, how a parent can take money from a baby that doesn’t even understand the concept of money or even say the word?

I think he was kidding.

[doodab]

I think he was kidding.

I'm not so sure.

[wim121]

You're new here, aren't you?

You'll get used to it.

Lol thanks ...

I just don't see the need for personal attacks or messages such as someone using a childish insult of t*ssp*t in reputation feedbacks.

Oh well, each to their own!

I think he was kidding.

I hope so, because that post did make me feel ill.

Although I wouldnt be surprised if it wasn't, no offense to the poster. Just I hear outrageous things from parents a lot. A relatives co-worker announced the other day, he was delighted at getting child allowance back, then proceeded to go online to spend it on beer brewing kits.

Glad to see our tax money is going to such good use

[Sysman]

Tough love can go too far by the sounds of it Sysman.

It can indeed.

As a parent I reckon it's a hard balance between getting a work ethic and spoon feeding.

My mother was a grafter, my father died very early. She didn't have the money to save for us and when the opportunity to buy my first house came along she leant me £5k towards my £10k deposit. I paid her 6 back within the year.

I sometimes wonder whether saving up for the kids is a good idea. By the time they hit 18 both will have about 40k saved and I'm not sure if that's the right approach. Time will tell.

I chatted about this with a neighbour who was quite tidily off. He had 2 daughters: one academically gifted, the other really not good at skool. He bought them a small cottage apiece when prices were right so that they didn't have to go through the first time buyer's process of getting ripped off (and let the cottages out until the girls were old enough to use them). He reckoned that was giving them a decent leg up without spoling them.

His wife also started a riding school for the less gifted daughter. As it turned out, she ended up running her father's business as well. She was one of those people who despite doing badly at skool could really apply herself to a job in the commercial world.

Neither were spoilt by too much money. Both turned out quite well.

[SizeZero]

You think I have issues? Did you fail to read the posts in this thread?

The OP suggests taking a 1/3 of a teenager’s meagre wages. £80 is only enough to cover bus/train fares, clothes and if anything is left over, some socialising. To then suggest taking money off this youth who is trying to find their feet is disgusting.

Well, Disgusted of Sussex, sadly I think you also failed spectacularly to grasp the concept of the thread. The OP wasn't suggesting taking 1/3 of his sons wage. He was asking what was considered 'normal', as he didn't want his ex-missus (not known for her compassionate nature, according to said OP) screwing his son over.

Don't worry - I'm sure the OP will accept an apology at your short sightedness and even shorter temper.

It's mutual family respect and by demanding rent off a family member, that child is forced to pay money, rather than contributing out of gratefulness and honouring their parents.

Ah, another one who doesn't have teenagers then....

[MarillionFan]

I think he was kidding.

No he wasn't. Not having my kids turn into spongers.

Sometimes if there's only one Haribo left, I let the kids fight over it,(it toughens them up for the playground) unless of course I want it, at which point they both lose(another lesson there - might is right).

[MarillionFan]

Oh well, each to their own!

I hope so, because that post did make me feel ill.

If you're going to hang around. Make sure you haven't eaten first.