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Quick question before I speak to my solicitor....
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Originally posted by ilovehr View PostJesus Russel, you arrogant tw*t
Do you actually know anything about my situation? I also pay £700 per month towards my daughter's welfare on top of the mortgage (so that's £1400 per month) which is due until she's 18. I also paid a lump sum of £10,000 from an inheritance last year. I didn't mention this in my post as I didn't think it was relevant to the question.
I adore my daughter and she stays with me 2 or 3 nights per week on average. I get on well with the ex and her boyfriend.
So get off your high horse and stop jumping to conclusions.
I asked a simple and very specific question about the mortgage. Try reading the post......Originally posted by russell View PostIm not sure how we were meant to give advice when you provided us with half the story. Makes sense now. Just do everything through csa then there can be no complaints on either side.Originally posted by MaryPoppinsI'd still not breastfeed a naziOriginally posted by vetranUrine is quite nourishingComment
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Didn't read, but is this still a joint house or not?
If it's her house and she's gone her way and you've gone then really it's just payment for the child.What happens in General, stays in General.You know what they say about assumptions!Comment
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Originally posted by russell View PostJust do everything through csa then there can be no complaints on either side.
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Originally posted by MarillionFan View PostDidn't read, but is this still a joint house or not?
If it's her house and she's gone her way and you've gone then really it's just payment for the child.
I'm thinking that I should just have a chat with the ex and if the boyfriend does move in, apply for the consent order to reduce the payment to a mutually agreed amount.
Like I said, I'm happy to pay for my daughter's and my ex's upkeep as required but I would feel uncomfortable supporting someone else....
I just bloody glad it was an amicable split - it must be a minefield when it turns nasty.Comment
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Is it really possible to have an amicable divorce? Seems like an oxymoron, if things were OK then why split?
Genuine question.Originally posted by MaryPoppinsI'd still not breastfeed a naziOriginally posted by vetranUrine is quite nourishingComment
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Originally posted by ilovehr View PostThe house is still in joint names as when we divorced my wife wasn't in a position financially to buy me out. I've just had a look at the consent order and it just makes reference to a periodic payment of £1400 until my daugher reaches age 18 - the mortgage isnn't specifically mentioned even though the amount was arrived as by taking half of the mortgage and adding a payment for my daughter.
I'm thinking that I should just have a chat with the ex and if the boyfriend does move in, apply for the consent order to reduce the payment to a mutually agreed amount.
Like I said, I'm happy to pay for my daughter's and my ex's upkeep as required but I would feel uncomfortable supporting someone else....
I just bloody glad it was an amicable split - it must be a minefield when it turns nasty.Bazza gets caught
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Originally posted by ilovehr View PostI just bloody glad it was an amicable split - it must be a minefield when it turns nasty.
It must have been very amicable indeed if you have agreed to pay for your ex's upkeep.
In my mind, that responsibility passes to her new bloke (if not to herself). When I was in your position, I included upkeep for the kids and keeping a roof over their heads into one lump, which had the side effect of heeping a roof over the ex missus head.
As the kids reached 18, I reduced the amount gradually. You are paying a lot more than I ever did
good luck , and try to keep it amicable
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Sounds a bit tricky, why should the boyfriend pay towards your house?
Would be cleaner if you could get them to buy you out and then rework the maintenance.
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I'd say you should have something drawn up specifically for the mortgage to protect both your and your ex's investment in it.
Then deal with the maintenance seperately.
If you own 50% of the house, you should be paying 50% of the mortgage, regardless of who she moves in.Comment
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