Have you had to ditch one of your mates?

[contractor79]

Life is too short to waste time being friends with nobbers. I've ditched a couple of old 'friends' because, in the end, I realised they were a waste of space.

Move on and forget.

Increasingly I agree with you. There's only so much effort I make these days until I think I can't be bothered anymore.

Facebook is part of the blame. I see people posting certain opinions, or insulting people with my opinions as -ist -phobes etc. and I'm pretty sure these are indirect attacks on me. Then they pretend to be friendly whilst clearly they have no respect at all for people who think like me. Why bother going for a few pints with them?

But the women thing is even worse. I would NEVER be negative about a woman who a friend of mine was keen on, or had a chance with. It's common sense really. Even if I thought she was a bit of a dog or her bum was too big or whatever... I could never retract those comments and my mate could end up marrying her and would never ever forget my negative comments. People like that are not friends, in my view.

Deep down though it's down to jealousy on their part. After I got myself a nice flat and nice car whilst they had neither... I saw some people's attitudes towards me change. More snide little comments in real life or on facebook, almost like they're trying to take me down a peg or two. Can't be arsed with any of that.

[Swati]

I thought that Shane Warnes comments in the past have been very reprehensible in my opinion and I think he has brought the game into disrepute. Hs comments in particular about Murali were very bbad in my opinion and he might just as well have said he was a cheat. This is not in the spirit of the game and I wanted him to be banned for a period in order to serve as a punishments for this willunry. And this coming from and Indian too! Well I can tell you I lost a coupole of friends when this opinion I expressed to some others of my chums a few years ago.

[Ravello]

c79 you are a complete tool and should be grateful for any "friends" that you have.

I suggest you don't ditch him, but instead pray for him. Make sure that you tell him you're praying for him though.

[contractor79]

c79 you are a complete tool and should be grateful for any "friends" that you have.

I suggest you don't ditch him, but instead pray for him. Make sure that you tell him you're praying for him though.

go away troll

[Spacecadet]

Done it twice... both times the same "friend" was involved.
Time hadn't mellowed him out in the break, in fact he was even more of a knob the second time

[contractor79]

Done it twice... both times the same "friend" was involved.
Time hadn't mellowed him out in the break, in fact he was even more of a knob the second time

Did it revolve around jealousy?

I think where it has gone wrong for me with these people is that I'm visibly more successful than them and the jealousy eats them up, they can't contain it, they have to let go and throw abuse or digs.

I guess in one's student days everyone is on the same level. As life moves on, some get richer, some don't. Some get nice looking women, some don't. This breeds jealousy in some.

[threaded]

Did it revolve around jealousy?

I think where it has gone wrong for me with these people is that I'm visibly more successful than them and the jealousy eats them up, they can't contain it, they have to let go and throw abuse or digs.

I guess in one's student days everyone is on the same level. As life moves on, some get richer, some don't. Some get nice looking women, some don't. This breeds jealousy in some.

I've had fellow students jealous of my abilities. Jeez, I even had teachers at infant school who, when I look back, were jealous.

Don't fuss it.

[OwlHoot]

Jeez, I even had teachers at infant school who, when I look back, were jealous.

Priceless - I hope someone is collecting these

[expat]

Did it revolve around jealousy?

I think where it has gone wrong for me with these people is that I'm visibly more successful than them and the jealousy eats them up, they can't contain it, they have to let go and throw abuse or digs.

I guess in one's student days everyone is on the same level. As life moves on, some get richer, some don't. Some get nice looking women, some don't. This breeds jealousy in some.

I'm sure it does in some, and if you have identified it right, you don't need them. But it may not be one-sided?

As for jealousy, a very old and close friend of mine died recently. He took a different path all his life, and never made so much money, but did a lot of useful (and other) things. I don't think he was ever jealous of how I made more money; but I was jealous at how crowded his funeral service was and how much of a positive effect he had obviously had on various spheres of private, local, national and cultural life. You won't get so many people at my funeral.

But a deeper understanding comes with age and I suspect that you are young. Just be sure that it is more worth you dumping those "friends" than it is worth their dumping you.