Nhs

[norrahe]

If it is the first stages of dementia then contact the alzheimers society

I've had two members of my family die from alzheimers related illnesses and another recently diagnosed.

They can advise on how to help and what the best route to take is.

[suityou01]

Good grief....

Keep at it SY01 - you'll need to support your mum when she discovers all of this (she'll feel bad, but she did what was right for her at the time - she couldn't have coped had your Gramps continued like that. Shame the bloody consultant didn't tell her about this then...)

Struggling to cope with my mother at present. It seems to be all about her.

I can't afford the parking to visit him (she is minted FFS, Dad was an IT contractor for 30 years)
I can't stand around in cold hospitals, not with my bad back.
I can't have him here, not if he needs looking after.

Yada yada yada. It's a strange thing when you look at the person your mother is and actually dislike the person you are seeing. Self centred would be an improvement.

Still I bite my lip, choke down what I am feeling and speak pleasantly. Now she knows he hasn't had a stroke she is even talking of vising him on Friday.

SY01 picks up the pieces, and exits to stage left once the storm has passed and she swans back in with Grandad none the wiser, and me and SY02 seriously sickened by her.

This is real life. Can't wait for things to go back to my usual drunken fuggy bubble.

Thanks CJ, RC, BGG et al. Proper nice people you are.

Edit : And SY02.

[RichardCranium]

Then I got some action.

indeed! Well done!

[mudskipper]

Sounds like good news. They are rubbish at keeping on top of what medication they've prescribed - at one point my mum (following a major bowel op) was being treated for both diarrhoea and constipation - with predictable consequences! So check his drug chart, use google, and if there's anything on there that you're unsure about, ask.

Different people cope (or don't) with stress in different ways. It doesn't sound like your mum's a selfish person if she's had your granddad living with her, so bear with her - she probably needs a too.

[suityou01]

Sounds like good news. They are rubbish at keeping on top of what medication they've prescribed - at one point my mum (following a major bowel op) was being treated for both diarrhoea and constipation - with predictable consequences! So check his drug chart, use google, and if there's anything on there that you're unsure about, ask.

Different people cope (or don't) with stress in different ways. It doesn't sound like your mum's a selfish person if she's had your granddad living with her, so bear with her - she probably needs a too.

Good point. Only someone from the outside looking in could point that one out. I'm too close to ground zero.

Things will pick up. At the moment I am focussed on what the Dr says. Get him over the infection, and anticipate improvement. I have refrained from speaking harshly / out of turn to Mum. She has detected me gritting my teeth in phone calls, and I have had a call from her tonight.

She is wanting to visit tomorrow, and take things day by day. This is good. Sometimes when you don't react, people feel bad all by themselves and correct themselves. This one needs thought, just a musing.

Again CUK, thanks for listening.

[OwlHoot]

.. at one point my mum (following a major bowel op) was being treated for both diarrhoea and constipation - with predictable consequences! ..

I'm not sure the consequences of that would be predicable

(unless maybe the result was frequent rabbit droppings)

[suityou01]

Promising news

Grandad is sitting up and chatting.


And they are talking about discharging him on Friday. Apparently their conclusion is he had pneumonia. Which presents all the symptoms he had including the slurred speech and stroke indicators. They have told my mother in her absence I had been very inquisitive about his progress.

And Mum is back on her game and being constructive.

So a big thanks to those that listened, swapped stories, posted links, PM'd. I think SY08 will keep on truckin for the time being.

[OwlHoot]

Crikey, this is like an episode of Holby City, and with a happy ending too. What more could you ask?