Another what would you do ?

[Sockpuppet]

Where is the contractor spirit?

I see a profit to me made. Ask your daughter for her phone number then become her dealer! It can't be any worse than being a rec consultant.

[Francko]

Where is the contractor spirit?

I see a profit to me made. Ask your daughter for her phone number then become her dealer! It can't be any worse than being a rec consultant.

Sorry but that's more of a recruitment agent spirit. You are ruining both her daughter and her friend for a little bit of easy money.

[scooterscot]

I want to take your opinion on something serious, my daughter has a childhood friend since forever, they have drifted recently, but they are still good friends, anyway, my daughter came to take my advise today, she made me promise not to tell anyone else or take the matter further, the thing is her childhood friend has started getting into drugs, my daughter hates drugs, she said when she first found her firend's habit she old her that she can’t be her friend any longer, however she felt guilty about it, this girl has been her friend for most of her life. I am a bit torn on what to do, should I inform the school? I also know that girl’s parents, should I tell them? But I know they will go OTT (who would blame them). If I just stay quiet and this girl just ruins her future for something so stupid I wont feel good, but its not the future alone, suppose she gets some bad drugs, or gets an overdose without realising?? If I go and speak to the teachers or her parents then they will know I am the one who grassed her, and my daughter will be put in a bad situation for betraying trust….also am worried if I betray my daughter’s trust she wont come to me with advise about such things again… anyone has any thoughts??

First the obvious:

Being in possession of Cocaine is illegal, being in possession of a Class A drug carries maximum imprisonment of 7 years.

I know of no friend good enough that I would risk 7 years in the clink for.


The health:

Well sure it rots the brain but so does a 100's other drugs out there that a consumed everyday that can do much worse, perfectly legal. Younger users are also at higher risk heart damage.


What you can do:

Be there for her. Support Support Support, be a family. Users at this age are often following their role models , copying, emulating, nothing new in that. Hence comes the importance of knowing how to be yourself and not impersonating someone else, of course that's not lesson you can teach - it's something we have to discover for ourselves.

[Churchill]

You are right, of course - but she won't necessarily be that one.

Let's take the gamble then, eh?

You really are a pillock!

[Denny]

I want to take your opinion on something serious, my daughter has a childhood friend since forever, they have drifted recently, but they are still good friends, anyway, my daughter came to take my advise today, she made me promise not to tell anyone else or take the matter further, the thing is her childhood friend has started getting into drugs, my daughter hates drugs, she said when she first found her firend's habit she old her that she can’t be her friend any longer, however she felt guilty about it, this girl has been her friend for most of her life. I am a bit torn on what to do, should I inform the school? I also know that girl’s parents, should I tell them? But I know they will go OTT (who would blame them). If I just stay quiet and this girl just ruins her future for something so stupid I wont feel good, but its not the future alone, suppose she gets some bad drugs, or gets an overdose without realising?? If I go and speak to the teachers or her parents then they will know I am the one who grassed her, and my daughter will be put in a bad situation for betraying trust….also am worried if I betray my daughter’s trust she wont come to me with advise about such things again… anyone has any thoughts??

I wouldn't worry too much about betraying trust in this case. Trust has no place with illegal and life damaging activities. Therefore, the school needs to know and so does this girl's parents. The headteacher could perhaps give a group talk on drug taking in the first instance, making sure your daughter's friend is present.

There is no reason why a discreet approach to the headteacher shouldn't be done without stating names. Also you could tell her friend's parents, asking her to approach the matter as if from another angle rather than making out someone had shopped her in. If this friend's parents care for her daughter then they will be so relieved to know that they will do anything you suggest.

Also, your daughter need not worry about losing a friend because she will lose her naturally because she will want to hang around with another 'gang' - other drug takers - if she continues down this path and won't want to associate with your daughter, should she insist on not taking drugs. They won't have anything in common. Drug users tend to stick together very quickly and shut out those who aren't part of that scene - whether that is Coke, H or Meth or even Hash.

I would worry much more if your daughter's friendship with this girl continues apace because this would suggest to me that perhaps she will soon be pressurised or is already contemplating or is actually dabbling in them herself.

[Churchill]

I wouldn't worry too much about betraying trust in this case. Trust has no place with illegal and life damaging activities. Therefore, the school needs to know and so does this girl's parents. The headteacher could perhaps give a group talk on drug taking in the first instance, making sure your daughter's friend is present.

There is no reason why a discreet approach to the headteacher shouldn't be done without stating names. Also you could tell her friend's parents, asking her to approach the matter as if from another angle rather than making out someone had shopped her in. If this friend's parents care for her daughter then they will be so relieved to know that they will do anything you suggest.

Also, your daughter need not worry about losing a friend because she will lose her naturally because she will want to hang around with another 'gang' - other drug takers - if she continues down this path and won't want to associate with your daughter, should she insist on not taking drugs. They won't have anything in common. Drug users tend to stick together very quickly and shut out those who aren't part of that scene - whether that is Coke, H or Meth or even Hash.

I would worry much more if your daughter's friendship with this girl continues apace because this would suggest to me that perhaps she will soon be pressurised or is already contemplating or is actually dabbling in them herself.

Oi Denny, considering you're unemployable in IT, why not retrain to be a social worker?

[DS23]

Oi Denny, considering you're unemployable in IT, why not retrain to be a social worker?

[Denny]

Oi Denny, considering you're unemployable in IT, why not retrain to be a social worker?

We're all OD'ing on your boring and unfunny comments! I need to jab a needle in my arm first to muster up the enthusiasm to read them.

[swamp]

This country is awash with drugs.

Well, it was when I was young But by all accounts things have got much worse. It's become mainstream as opposed to confined to groups of 'rebels'. Massive amounts of cocaine around too in the last 5-10 years.

Telling your daughter "Drugs Are Bad" probably won't work because, in all honesty, drugs aren't always that bad. They can be fun, lots of fun. Tell her instead that there are just usually much better things to do with her time, money and health.

[ASB]

Think carefully before informing the school. It can, in a lot of cases, simply result in automatic exclusion under a lot of schools zero tolerance policy. Since she is over the school leaving age there is no absolute requirement for her to be reschooled.