Chewed up and Spat Out..

[MarillionFan]

Shes means something like this

[vetran]

I didnt enjoy it for a second.

Well thats half the problem. If you were trying to manipulate her then she would have sensed it, unless you are an Adonis or very good it doesn't work (I'm neither). Just be open and have fun , unless you are very confident in your ability don't try to control your body language etc.

After 2.5 hours of conversation you should have been able to find something in common or suggest something fun to do.

If you are after a long term relationship perhaps you need to meet people in a less confrontational setting? Join a few clubs or similar and find someone who clicks. Most of my ex girlfriends were friends first, the wife was the receptionist at work.

Hope This Helps

Rhododendron - agony aunt to the IT stars.

[lukemg]

Forget all these romantic notions, save that for 'the one'. You need to keep your eyes on the prize. Approach it as a competition, much like a job interview, your job is to get them to like you and want you.
Since when are fit girls funny anyway ? You need to be funny enough for both of you, take the mick a bit out of her and yourself. Avoid all the bad areas which put you into one of the categories that equal no shag - so, mention IT if you have to, means to an end, sh1t boring really. Don't agree with every damn thing and end up in friendsville.
Flirt a bit, great hair, dress, outfit etc, if you get any encouragement, push it a bit further.
Fit girls go out with all sorts of blokes, you need to work out which type she wants and turn into him very quickly, regardless of what you are really like.
First objective, she likes you, wants another date (you are stuck on this square). Second objective, turn up the heat on the second date, get some tongue action. Third date - home run.
Thrill of the chase gets you through all these phases, then you can decide if you actually like her or not !!!!
HTH

[rootsnall]

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This realy is the problem like - you need to go out with someone who wants to get utterly hammerred. Those nights alwasy end in shagging, or at the very least serious gropey snogging!

I know thats not what you want long term, but you seriously need it for the now!!

Start looking for descriptions where drinking is their only passtime!

Here here ! If you had a few lagers and didn't do some grappling on the first date then its generally going nowhere.

As a mate of mine announced infront of a large group including his wife, "darling I've just realised its the third anniversary since we first met", pause, "and I've also realised its the third anniversary of when I first shagged you" !

[SallyAnne]

Shes means something like this

That is totally me and my lad

[SallyAnne]

Here here ! If you had a few lagers and didn't do some grappling on the first date then its generally going nowhere.

As a mate of mine announced infront of a large group including his wife, "darling I've just realised its the third anniversary since we first met", pause, "and I've also realised its the third anniversary of when I first shagged you" !

[SallyAnne]

Forget all these romantic notions, save that for 'the one'. You need to keep your eyes on the prize. Approach it as a competition, much like a job interview, your job is to get them to like you and want you.
Since when are fit girls funny anyway ? You need to be funny enough for both of you, take the mick a bit out of her and yourself. Avoid all the bad areas which put you into one of the categories that equal no shag - so, mention IT if you have to, means to an end, sh1t boring really. Don't agree with every damn thing and end up in friendsville.
Flirt a bit, great hair, dress, outfit etc, if you get any encouragement, push it a bit further.
Fit girls go out with all sorts of blokes, you need to work out which type she wants and turn into him very quickly, regardless of what you are really like.
First objective, she likes you, wants another date (you are stuck on this square). Second objective, turn up the heat on the second date, get some tongue action. Third date - home run.
Thrill of the chase gets you through all these phases, then you can decide if you actually like her or not !!!!
HTH

I think you need to move in with Duder for a couple of weeks - thats exactly the kind of training he needs Luke! Bravo!!

[Buffoon]

As a mate of mine announced infront of a large group including his wife, "darling I've just realised its the third anniversary since we first met", pause, "and I've also realised its the third anniversary of when I first shagged you" !

That reminds me of a Catherine Tate character, the pissed bride. “I have slept with 37 men in my life. I can’t remember which number [the bridegroom] was.”

[bobhope]

I'm sure the thought of having to do dating again is alien to a lot of contractors here. I can't imagine it.

[Bagpuss]

I met my other half on a blind date.

Wasn't it a bit dishonest? not being blind yourself