Now I know why some of you are sexist...

[Bee]

There is no need of this "studies" to know the obvious.

Pornography and prostitution make men see women as objects.

[Jog On]

Explain please?

Nice guy syndrome

I did everything I could to make her happy. I tried to solve her problems. I tried to be a good father to her children. I tried to be a better man than the other men in her past. I tried to be the best lover she had ever had. I put her needs ahead of mine.

In spite of everything I did for her, it never seemed enough. I could never seem to make her happy. She was frequently moody and would lash out at me, seemingly without provocation. Our sex life sucked.

My resentment grew, but I kept it all inside. I just kept trying harder to do whatever it would take to make her happy and get her to give me the love, appreciation, and sex I so deeply desired.

I avoided conflict and withheld any information – including my feelings and wants – that I thought might rock the boat or start a fight. I lied, and I hid things. I sought external validation from other women. I was passive aggressive – expressing my pent up feelings and resentments in “humor,” put downs, sarcasm, and backhanded jabs.

This is the result of several decades of man/masculinity shaming turning a lot of men into wimpy, hen pecked, non-confrontational, passive aggressive, frustrated pr0n addicts.

It's how we're told/shamed into 'manning up' according to a lot of SJWs and male white knight feminists (trying to get into their pants).

[Jog On]

There is no need of this "studies" to know the obvious.

Pornography and prostitution make people see other people as objects.

Fixed

[Mordac]

Yep when you are a 90 year old man and need to learn how to keep your 70 year old girlfriend happy.

Simply being able to remember her name should be enough...

[vetran]

Simply being able to remember her name should be enough...

last of the great gentlemen

[BrilloPad]

There is no need of this "studies" to know the obvious.

Pornography and prostitution make men see women as objects.

There is no need for a study to know the obvious.

Bee is a Portugese Sockie.

Women seeing men as a walking wallet.

[Mordac]

There is no need for a study to know the obvious.

Bee is a Portugese Sockie.

Women seeing men as a walking wallet.

How many wives was it before you twigged?

[SueEllen]

Nice guy syndrome


This is the result of several decades of man/masculinity shaming turning a lot of men into wimpy, hen pecked, non-confrontational, passive aggressive, frustrated pr0n addicts.

It's how we're told/shamed into 'manning up' according to a lot of SJWs and male white knight feminists (trying to get into their pants).

That's not actually "nice guy" syndrome.

It's when a guy befriends a woman who he fancies but the woman makes it clear that she absolutely doesn't fancy him. He makes himself the goto friend particularly when she has problems in her life. After a year or so he thinks he should be rewarded for his behaviour by having a relationship with her not realising when she says she doesn't fancy him she means it, so when he attempts any form of physical contact with her he gets told to feck off.

Btw it's not exclusively male behaviour as I was told by a couple of male friends' of a woman I use to know who did similar.

[Jog On]

That's not actually "nice guy" syndrome.

It's when a guy befriends a woman who he fancies but the woman makes it clear that she absolutely doesn't fancy him. He makes himself the goto friend particularly when she has problems in her life. After a year or so he thinks he should be rewarded for his behaviour by having a relationship with her not realising when she says she doesn't fancy him she means it, so when he attempts any form of physical contact with her he gets told to feck off.

Btw it's not exclusively male behaviour as I was told by a couple of male friends' of a woman I use to know who did similar.

I think there are single nice guys and relationship nice guys, both using 'covert contracts' exhibiting certain "nice" behaviours with the expectation of something in return.

I was relationship nice guy until recently (probably why I'm a bit obsessed with the topic) and the hen pecking and arguing has stopped considerably and we're both a lot happier for it.

I read in another book by David Deida (the way of the superior man) that hen pecking and 'testing' is just a woman's way of saying "man! man! there's a man in there somewhere goddammit, I don't want a jellyfish I want a man! - prod prod prod..."

Something to do with evolutionary wiring where she needs to know he is able to protect the cave while she's nursing the kids and as soon as he stops displaying that reassurance she has to whip him into shape..

[mudskipper]

I think there are single nice guys and relationship nice guys, both using 'covert contracts' exhibiting certain "nice" behaviours with the expectation of something in return.

I was relationship nice guy until recently (probably why I'm a bit obsessed with the topic) and the hen pecking and arguing has stopped considerably and we're both a lot happier for it.

I read in another book by David Deida (the way of the superior man) that hen pecking and 'testing' is just a woman's way of saying "man! man! there's a man in there somewhere goddammit, I don't want a jellyfish I want a man! - prod prod prod..."

Something to do with evolutionary wiring where she needs to know he is able to protect the cave while she's nursing the kids and as soon as he stops displaying that reassurance she has to whip him into shape..

Sounds to me like you've read and believed way too much crap you've read on the internet.

Don't pretend to be something you are not - i.e. be honest about who you are.

Be yourself, ideally from the start of the relationship (obv hold off farting at the dinner table on the first date). If your partner does not like you for who you are, then they're not the right partner for you.

To assume that "women want..." is to limit your options to those women that conform to the stereotypes that you are spouting - and unless you're very lucky, you're unlikely to end up with a long lasting, happy, equal relationship - assuming that's what you're looking for. If you want to get laid as often as possible, then carry on as you are, but you're likely to end up with the sort of women that Brillo describes above.