The first thing my first boss said to me

[TheCoconutDog]

I think you need some help. http://www.the****itlife.com/index.htm

[EternalOptimist]

hey suity.

pma. get some pma

Positive Mental Attitude.


it's a bit like leadership. some are born with it, but it IS possible to learn and train

[suityou01]

That's because you always have verbal diarrhoea.

Or you fail to understand me.

Suity, you are very much of the "I have never caused a road accident, but I've seen hundreds in my rear view mirror...."

I'm pondering this. Not dismissed out of hand, but pondering. I will get back to you.

There are a number of possible explanations:

1) You're damned unlucky and have worked mostly with people that treat everyone like that.

2) There's something about you that makes ordinarily decent people treat you like that.

3) Your perception of how they treat you doesn't match the reality.

How do these people treat your colleagues? How do those colleagues perceive that they are treated?

(Or, especially for TykeMerc: 4) It's made up bollocks and you're a fantasist and a liar )

Quite a bit of 1. I think a hefty pinch of 2. Now I think back, all the gigs where it's got nasty have been working with cowboys who ride into town, try and do a half arsed job and I gently push back and try and bring some quality / formality. I've never been very good at being sloppy, or "good enough is enough". My perfectionism is perhaps just north of sane.

Then again the one time I ran a project, and I mean ran it, I had quite a sizeable team, geographically distributed, we delivered on time and on budget. The CTO called me in his office after a week of go-live to congratulate me that this was the first go-live in living memory when he didn't get at least 1 email complaining. It was, genuinely a very well run project. Because I ran it.

I'm actually quite bright, and have an uncanny knack of seeing things way before others do. I get really frustrated when I'm shouting "iceberg" while others are just shuffling the deckchairs.

(3) He has a victim complex. What you could say to 99% of people in a meeting/discussion, Suity would take it another way. It goes further than just an inferiority complex, because in Suity's case he takes it as everyone is out to get him.

Quite tedious really.

Again not dismissing this out of hand. Pondering.

[AtW]

That's because you always have verbal diarrhoea.

Or you fail to understand me.

You could be both right...

[DimPrawn]

Setup a crowdfunding page and we will chip-in to pay for professional help (Getting Help).

Then, when you are fixed, we can collect 15% of your earnings for life as payback.

Win-win.

[AtW]

Setup a crowdfunding page and we will chip-in to pay for professional help (Getting Help).

Then, when you are fixed, we can collect 15% of your earnings for life as payback.

Win-win.

Can it get wrapped into ISA?

[DimPrawn]

Can it get wrapped into ISA?

Now you think like a true capitalist Comrade.

[EternalOptimist]

The first thing my first boss said to me

'Hey, rosy cheeks. Can you touch your toes ?'

[MarillionFan]

The first thing my first boss said to me

'Hey, rosy cheeks. Can you touch your toes ?'

Who's in the barrel?

[shaunbhoy]

... and I'll never forget it. "Never tulip on people on the way up, as you may just need them again on the way back down".

Of course, for any of that advice to have relevance and be put properly to the test, it may require you actually rising up the job ladder. Hardly a very likely contingency when you continually insist upon flatlining along the skidpan of corporate mediocrity.

HTH BIDI