Reply to: Dear Deidre marriage and kids don't interest me

[MaryPoppins]

Have you got Pampas Grass in your front garden yet?

Nearly did, but some cream from the doctor sorted that out.

[Churchill]

That's what I used to think, aye. For me personally it hasn't turned out quite that way thankfully, but it does scupper your plans a little bit.

Have you got Pampas Grass in your front garden yet?

[Spacecadet]

FTFY

WHS but with more lady boys

[MaryPoppins]

Kids, the suburbs and two weeks in a caravan with in-laws isn't quite so attractive.

That's what I used to think, aye. For me personally it hasn't turned out quite that way thankfully, but it does scupper your plans a little bit.

[MarillionFan]

I think kids are really cute and I love my nephews and nieces to bits but.... if I keep my head down I can be retired by late thirties.

As it stands when I'm single I tend to spend three months a year in Pattaya drinking cheap beer, wearing fishermans trousers and taking bar girls home for 500 baht.

Kids, the suburbs and two weeks in a caravan with in-laws isn't quite so attractive.

FTFY

[DieScum]

I think kids are really cute and I love my nephews and nieces to bits but.... if I keep my head down I can be retired by late thirties.

As it stands when I'm single I tend to spend three months a year living like a king in Thailand and mostly do what I want the rest of the time.

Kids, the suburbs and two weeks in a caravan with in-laws isn't quite so attractive.

[MaryPoppins]

I used to think that. Then I had kids and am grateful whenever other kids are annoying. I think "At least it is not my kids for a change".

WHS

[BrilloPad]

I mean you've seen how annoying people with kids are in restaurants

I used to think that. Then I had kids and am grateful whenever other kids are annoying. I think "At least it is not my kids for a change".

[Churchill]

Only if she was flicking her mother's bean while watching you.

FTFY

[TiroFijo]

Dear Deidrie,

I was watching my next door neighbour's daughter sunbathing topless in their back garden. As I stood at our upstairs window knocking one out, I became aware that my wife was standing behind me, just watching me. Do you think she could be some kind of pervert ?

Only if she was flicking her bean while watching you.

[escapeUK]

Just wondered if anyone when they were in the mid 30's still was not interested in marriage or kids, and if that was the case did that ever change ?

In my 20's even late 20's I wasn't interested in marriage kids net result split with girlfriend of 8 years, thought it was just a phase and I would grow into the marriage / kids thing. Now mid / late 30's I'm still not feeling the marriage and kids thing and looks like my current relationship of a few years may go the same way as the previous. I'm pretty selfish and just like doing my own things, when I want, I enjoy having no commitments is that wrong ?

Starting to think may be I'm just not the type for marriage and kids ever or is it just because I've not met the one ?

I think most men dont want them. I know an awful lot that have been trapped through "happy accidents". I mean you've seen how annoying people with kids are in restaurants, would you want that ALL the time? Talk about ruin your life.

[Churchill]

is it any coincidence that a forum largely made up of IT geeks should have a higher than average proportion of people making a "lifestyle choice" not to have partners and/or kids? Could it be related to the fact that women don't see beardy, World of Warcraft obsessed DBA types with questionable personal hygiene as their first choice gene donors for their offspring?

It's probably the same sorts who post on here that they'd 'do' Kylie or Dannii but draw the line at Jordan or Jodie Marsh despite never having so much as pulled the head off a dead dog.

Speak for yourself.

I'm more than happy!

[Platypus]

is it any coincidence that a forum largely made up of IT geeks should have a higher than average proportion of people making a "lifestyle choice" not to have partners and/or kids? Could it be related to the fact that women don't see beardy, World of Warcraft obsessed DBA types with questionable personal hygiene as their first choice gene donors for their offspring?

That's a bit of a generalisation based on a few forum replies. And AtW.

FFS, I don't have a beard nor am I a DBA ! And what's more, I tell you, I shower once a week. So there.

[Bagpuss]

If you put it like that it could be seen as doing their civic duty

[Alf W]

is it any coincidence that a forum largely made up of IT geeks should have a higher than average proportion of people making a "lifestyle choice" not to have partners and/or kids? Could it be related to the fact that women don't see beardy, World of Warcraft obsessed DBA types with questionable personal hygiene as their first choice gene donors for their offspring?

It's probably the same sorts who post on here that they'd 'do' Kylie or Dannii but draw the line at Jordan or Jodie Marsh despite never having so much as pulled the head off a dead dog.