Reply to: Au Pair

[ThomasSoerensen]

Thanks Guys - closed now.

really?

This could easily become a new TPD thread.

So, would you hire an Au Pair that does not like naked fully grown gladiators bleeding radiators?

[Churchill]

OK thanks all.

I was actually asking about hiring an Au Pair and hoping that would enable me to continue working, and convince any court that someone was there to attend to the kids during the day (before / after school).

I know this forum is mostly visited with fcukwits like Churchill, but some of you have similar experiences (we're contractors) and thanks for the feedback. I'll of course seek professional advice - (some of you assume I wouldn't).

Thanks Guys - closed now.

Thanks.

Btw, you'd rather pay a stranger to look after your kids than their mother? Well you married her. Btw, I think you got sod all chance. Do report back.

Come back anytime.

[jeremytaxman]

OK thanks all.

I was actually asking about hiring an Au Pair and hoping that would enable me to continue working, and convince any court that someone was there to attend to the kids during the day (before / after school).

I know this forum is mostly visited with fcukwits like Churchill, but some of you have similar experiences (we're contractors) and thanks for the feedback. I'll of course seek professional advice - (some of you assume I wouldn't).

Thanks Guys - closed now.

[EternalOptimist]

It's possible. I got custody of my daughter after the divorce, which was nice, but I left work and didnt get back into full employment for ten years. which was tough.

The courts will act in the childs best interest (ideally), you just have to convince them.
a few dirty tricks are good too

[jeremytaxman]

He's worried about getting custody of the kids and starts a thread titled "Au Pair"?

Churchill looks like you got too excited when you read the title .........

[BrilloPad]

Probably not a good idea to take advice from an internet forum on such matters, but instead get a proper divorce lawyer.

For divorce finance issues getting a good lawyer helps. But for access you are probably better off on your own. There are places you can get free help.

[Freamon]

There are some good cashback offers on divorces at the moment:

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[Freamon]

And what do you expect from a contractor website that is primarily inhabited by technologists? Why not go to dadsnet or some other divorce website?

I must admit I'm a little surprised there is a "dadsnet", but given it exists, I'm not really surprised it's mainly about divorces.

[Freamon]

You may get a more constructive response from Mumsnet, assuming it's not rag week over there...

Probably not a good idea to take advice from an internet forum on such matters, but instead get a proper divorce lawyer.

[Churchill]

Personally I think the OP is talking bollocks.

He's worried about getting custody of the kids and starts a thread titled "Au Pair"?

[ThomasSoerensen]

Whats the chances of convincing the divorce court to let me have the kids ...

The chances of convincing the divorce court to let you have the kids are 50/50. Either you convince the court or you don't.

[tractor]

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I know of several dads who have won custody, nowdays the wishes of the children make up the majority of the courts weighting. Oh and you could try having her sectioned ?

But remember, she is probably trying to do the same to you right now.......

[BrilloPad]

I am not sure at what age the court would override a mother wishes over the childs.

In general if a child wants to live with mum they get a say at 9. If child wants to live with Dad it is 13.

[Churchill]

Thanks - and yes, I'm already happier to have my freedom at any price

How much for the little girl? The women? How much for the women?

[jeremytaxman]

Thanks - and yes, I'm already happier to have my freedom at any price