Reply to: Pre-Nuptual Agreements

[MaryPoppins]

Mary Poppins I found another guitarist for you

There's a lot of them about

[alreadypacked]

Rest assured alreadypacked, although as the guitarist in my old band, the guys ‘n’ girls were kind enough to give me a go on vocals for such songs as Basketcase and Teenage Dirtbag, there is absolutely no way I would inflict my untamed voice on an unsuspecting karaoke audience!

Mary Poppins I found another guitarist for you

[hyperD]

Sorry to hear that, but you seam to be getting over it.

But please tell me you have not taken up karaoke

Rest assured alreadypacked, although as the guitarist in my old band, the guys ‘n’ girls were kind enough to give me a go on vocals for such songs as Basketcase and Teenage Dirtbag, there is absolutely no way I would inflict my untamed voice on an unsuspecting karaoke audience!

[alreadypacked]

The hyperD will not be beaten, temporarily bruised maybe, but never, ever beaten! And will soar once more into the skies!

Sorry to hear that, but you seam to be getting over it.

But please tell me you have not taken up karaoke

[shaunbhoy]

Nope, i think they really should be mandatory (which would kill the lawyers cash cow).

Outside of the kids, by the time you hit the courts every part of a divorce is about money/possessions, basically a contract dispute where there is no written contract and a lot of negative emotions. Pre-nup is just basically putting that contract into writing, solving a lot of hassle/pain/stress/aggravation.

"Marrying the right person" is pretty immaterial, because odds are even if you do marry "the right one", you will still end up getting divorced within 20 odd years. People change over change and now that we live longer those changes can be even more pronounced, “one for me” today might be “your worst nightmare” in 20 years’ time

What a cynical outlook. Are you divorced then?

[Not So Wise]

Anyone else feel that if you think you need one of these in place, you are marrying the wrong person?
Just another Lawyer Cash Cow if you ask me.

Panel????

Nope, i think they really should be mandatory (which would kill the lawyers cash cow).

Outside of the kids, by the time you hit the courts every part of a divorce is about money/possessions, basically a contract dispute where there is no written contract and a lot of negative emotions. Pre-nup is just basically putting that contract into writing, solving a lot of hassle/pain/stress/aggravation.

"Marrying the right person" is pretty immaterial, because odds are even if you do marry "the right one", you will still end up getting divorced within 20 odd years. People change over change and now that we live longer those changes can be even more pronounced, “one for me” today might be “your worst nightmare” in 20 years’ time

[TimberWolf]

Our flats management company once went to a firm of solicitors seeking advice, as a solicitor living in the block of flats was being awkward (bordering on insane actually), and they do know how to be awkward. First thing the solicitor asked was how large the company company funds were. We had a bit and he suggested that the solicitor had his eye on them. In the end, fearing huge legal costs (actually we went to small claims and won - he didn't even turn up to court, though he knew how to delay and obfuscate matters prior to that, creating a lot of work, but he still didn't pay), we just let the solicitor living in the block of flats do as he wished, which at the time was his not paying his maintenance fee and complaining about everything. It'll be some one else's job to collect the amount due if he ever moves.

[Lockhouse]

I had a pre-nup for my 2nd marriage - the important thing to do is amend them if circumstances change over time during the relationship. I unfortunately didn't and got royally stuffed....

At least I got it right the 3rd time (so far...).

[hyperD]

Sorry to hear that you had it so tough.

Thanks.

Don't let it put you off women though. Don't let HAB catch you in a moment of weakness, just tell him you were never "confused"

No it hasn't thankfully. I'm just a little more wordly wise nowadays and certainly am conscious that I don't fall into one of those bitter and twisted types. As benes, you and many other kind folk here on CUK have said, this is a new start to enjoying life again with it's myriad of experiences, people, emotions, both happy and sad.

The hyperD will not be beaten, temporarily bruised maybe, but never, ever beaten! And will soar once more into the skies!

[SupremeSpod]

My Judge was far from sympathetic. When there is such tautology in the logic of marital law where you can prove one situation but the Judge won't grant you the legal means to have it accepted in the court, words and barrister fees are not enough.

My case outgrew my solicitor. Unfortunately, my barrister's fees outgrew my dwindling reserves.

I wouldn't wish divorce on even my worse enemies.

Sorry to hear that you had it so tough.

Anyway, tomorrow is another day.

Don't let it put you off women though. Don't let HAB catch you in a moment of weakness, just tell him you were never "confused"

[hyperD]

Fortunately I can remain calm in a "crisis" and spent the whole of the proceedings talking not to my soon to be ex but to her solicitor.

That and the fact that the original Judge was a friendly chap.

My Judge was far from sympathetic. When there is such tautology in the logic of marital law where you can prove one situation but the Judge won't grant you the legal means to have it accepted in the court, words and barrister fees are not enough.

My case outgrew my solicitor. Unfortunately, my barrister's fees outgrew my dwindling reserves.

I wouldn't wish divorce on even my worse enemies.

[AtW]

Use solicitor BEFORE problems happen ...

[minestrone]

A word to the wise. If you're going through a divorce, do not get a solicitor. You do not need one and can fight your own corner.

When opposing solicitors get together over a divorce the only thing they're interested in is how much they're going to make.

Your interests are not their priority.

Hth.

With your personality one wonders why you would have to go through a divorce.

[SupremeSpod]

In hindsight Spod, most of what you say is true. Unfortunately at the time it didn't seem to be an option when your mental state is a little off due to the betrayals and the flood of agressive letters and demands.

Fortunately I can remain calm in a "crisis" and spent the whole of the proceedings talking not to my soon to be ex but to her solicitor.

That and the fact that the original Judge was a friendly chap.

[hyperD]

A word to the wise. If you're going through a divorce, do not get a solicitor. You do not need one and can fight your own corner.

When opposing solicitors get together over a divorce the only thing they're interested in is how much they're going to make.

Your interests are not their priority.

Hth.

In hindsight Spod, most of what you say is true. Unfortunately at the time it didn't seem to be an option when your mental state is a little off due to the betrayals and the flood of agressive letters and demands.