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[SizeZero]

I just tell her in no uncertain terms that she is naughty, and remove her from the room. She usualy comes in 5 minutes later looking sheepish and saying sorry.

Fully back that up, except replace no with NO! At age 2 they start to push boundaries and hitting a parent is way out of line. You have about 5 years to get them used to No = No way; not if even if you hit me, you cry, or you use other manipulation techniques.

You might feel like tulip when his bottom lip trembles, but if you give in, you will end up with bigger discipline problems in the long run. He can't learn that he can hit someone without consequences.


Oh, and make sure he hasn't sneaked coloured pencils into the naughty corner, or you might have a spot of redecorating to do next weekend

[Diver]

EO, you go on thinking that you can "control" a 2 year old
Maybe you should go to a toddler group yourself and see what happens?
Then again, you probably don't have the time.........

Cattle-prod or Tazer + a dog lead and collar. Sorted

[portseven]

... actually, advice on terrible-two's ...

Got a 2 year old boy who's very, very strong-willed, who don't listen. He recently started hitting me! How do I handle him, it's doing my head in ...

Lucky you, I have a 21 month old and she has been doing that for a month now!

I just tell her in no uncertain terms that she is naughty, and remove her from the room. She usualy comes in 5 minutes later looking sheepish and saying sorry.

[Ivor Bigun]

well thats fantastic Ivor, but sometimes you need instant results. If the kid is doing something dangerous, they have to respond to you straight away. If your child is running out into the road without looking, would you really sit back and say , patience Ivor, be patient, count to ten Ivor ?????

The world is a big confusing place for a young child and anyone letting a 2yr old child loose on a busy road needs their head testing. They ALL run out into the road - At that age, they have little concept of danger.

IMO, you either go with the child or react. If you can give the child what it wants (Attention) and direct it to play, then IMO you're doing a good job as a parent. Not only that its rewarding too.
Bad behaviour in a child is caused when he/she is confused, tired or frustrated.

EO, you go on thinking that you can "control" a 2 year old
Maybe you should go to a toddler group yourself and see what happens?
Then again, you probably don't have the time.........

[EternalOptimist]

Get the doctor to check out his hearing - could be glue ear.

On the hitting side, thats frustration. Try to give the child what he wants and gradually haul him back to relate with you better.
Do you work away? if so this could be that you're taking his mum away.
Do things together as a family.
Make sure he goes to toddler group.
With time and patience, it will all be OK.

well thats fantastic Ivor, but sometimes you need instant results. If the kid is doing something dangerous, they have to respond to you straight away. If your child is running out into the road without looking, would you really sit back and say , patience Ivor, be patient, count to ten Ivor ?????

[Ivor Bigun]

... actually, advice on terrible-two's ...

Got a 2 year old boy who's very, very strong-willed, who don't listen. He recently started hitting me! How do I handle him, it's doing my head in ...

Get the doctor to check out his hearing - could be glue ear.

On the hitting side, thats frustration. Try to give the child what he wants and gradually haul him back to relate with you better.
Do you work away? if so this could be that you're taking his mum away.
Do things together as a family.
Make sure he goes to toddler group.
With time and patience, it will all be OK.

[blacjac]

Making them scared that Grandad will think they're Naughty, and stop spoiling them rotten

Ahhh, now there's a thought.........

[Diver]

Presumably you get your power saw out - they know what it did to your hand!

F*** off


Seriously

[Diver]

I know you think my parenting skills are limited to climbing cranes.

No! you encourage children everywhere to dress up as super heroes too

[BrilloPad]

Great isn't it

My daughter tells her 2 girls " I'll phone Grandad, Do you want me to phone Grandad?" she says it works a treat.

Presumably you get your power saw out - they know what it did to your hand!

[BrilloPad]

Can't believe I am saying it but WHS.

I know you think my parenting skills are limited to climbing cranes.

[Diver]

Works a treat at what?

Making them scared of Grandad?

Making them scared that Grandad will think they're Naughty, and stop spoiling them rotten

[blacjac]

Great isn't it

My daughter tells her 2 girls " I'll phone Grandad, Do you want me to phone Grandad?" she says it works a treat.

Works a treat at what?

Making them scared of Grandad?

[Diver]

well I did my stint, four of them, so I am not totally unsympathetic. But now they are all growed up I can sit back and watch you youngsters go through it all and hurl some good natured abuse.

Great isn't it

My daughter tells her 2 girls " I'll phone Grandad, Do you want me to phone Grandad?" she says it works a treat.

[Troll]

No wonder the countries so screwed up, what you need to do & what it is your responsibility to do is called tough love.

At two it is impossible to rationalise with them so start out how you mean to go on -a series of escalated warnings culminating in the ultimate sanction of a slipper on the backside.

Get it right with the first one and you won't have to do it so much with the siblings, be absolutely fair with the warnings -especially the final one but be prepared to carry it through.

You will feel like tulip doing it but it will deliver disciplined children & believe me the frequency will diminish as they get older and you're able to reason with them