Reply to: Is she the one?

[Ivor Bigun]

Ok I've read the thread, here's my 2c,

(1) When you tell her "I love you", do you secretly cringe a little inside? I suspect yes.

(2) Do you want to start a family? A women who nags you to propose will soon start nagging about a family. It's the slippery slope. She will lie about this point. To be fair, she may not think she wants to start a family almost immediately, but she does.

(3) If you think you want/need to sleep with more babes, then you probably do. Best get that out the way before you get married. You'll always regret it if you don't. See also (5) and resentment.

(4) Would you turn down sex from a decent looking bird right now? If no, you're not ready for monogamy which is kinda important in a marriage.

(5) Bottom line: you have doubts, therefore don't do it. If you do, you will resent the decision and this will inevitably cause the relationship to fail.

So speaks "Dr. Relationship"

P.S. Can you find a better partner? Probably. Reading in New Scientist recently, it's surprising how few people we meet before we find "miss right". In effect most people make the choice having been acquainted with only a few hundred potential partners, and choose based on that pool.

Very good advice here for the guy in denial.

Reckon here's some more lists (programmers like them!)

Is she often moody?
Ditch immedately

Does she blame others for her "problems"?
Ditch immediately

If she has aspects of below, then enjoy but NEVER marry (and wear a condom) she has to be mega fit though!
- She likes to be spoiled
- Moans a lot (its your fault etc)
- Is interested in the finer things in life (nice holidays etc)
- Is great in bed


Finally, If she's all of the below then marry immediately - cos there's not many human beings like this - let alone women!
- kind
- quietish but popular
- good with kids
- keeps calm in emergancies
- has interests in life (sport, hobby)
- Has no personal image problems
- Keeps themsleves healthy with exercise and a good diet (not a slimming diet)
- Is happy having a cheap picnic with you on a Summer's day even though it's started to rain - and you both laugh about your "bad" luck with weather.

[DiscoStu]

...or will you show them to me?...

...Cause you've you've got a nice head
And you look pretty honest
So me face'll be leavin' in a quarter of an hour
I'd like you to be on it...

[Ruprect]

Does her dad own a brewery?

...or will you show them to me?...

[BA to the Stars]

Ask Wilmslow - he will know the answer.

The font of things relationships

[eliquant]

2 years in, love her...

Still constantly analysing the relationship in my head...

Can i find a better partner? a more attractive one...better than me

Do i want to live here? Should i go travelling before i'm too old

Should i mate with more wimmin before i settle down?

Should i earn more money in horrible places before opting for the easy life?

What questions should i ask myself when making a decision about whther to marry her. she has given me a marriage ultimatum

she will reveal her true personality after you marry here and you will end up ordering your Fathers For Justice Spiderman suit from amazon.co.uk years later.

[tay]

I seem to recall someone else on here posting the other day that they needed to be single but didn't have the heart to dump their bloke. I guess they're really unhappy at home too.

Nice one

[SallyAnne]

P.S. Can you find a better partner? Probably. Reading in New Scientist recently, it's surprising how few people we meet before we find "miss right". In effect most people make the choice having been acquainted with only a few hundred potential partners, and choose based on that pool.

However, it's fair to say that if you need to consult New Scientist in order to answer this question, then for the love of god stick with this woman!! There wont be another!!

[Platypus]

2 years in, love her...

Still constantly analysing the relationship in my head...

Can i find a better partner? a more attractive one...better than me

Do i want to live here? Should i go travelling before i'm too old

Should i mate with more wimmin before i settle down?

Should i earn more money in horrible places before opting for the easy life?

What questions should i ask myself when making a decision about whther to marry her. she has given me a marriage ultimatum

Ok I've read the thread, here's my 2c,

(1) When you tell her "I love you", do you secretly cringe a little inside? I suspect yes.

(2) Do you want to start a family? A women who nags you to propose will soon start nagging about a family. It's the slippery slope. She will lie about this point. To be fair, she may not think she wants to start a family almost immediately, but she does.

(3) If you think you want/need to sleep with more babes, then you probably do. Best get that out the way before you get married. You'll always regret it if you don't. See also (5) and resentment.

(4) Would you turn down sex from a decent looking bird right now? If no, you're not ready for monogamy which is kinda important in a marriage.

(5) Bottom line: you have doubts, therefore don't do it. If you do, you will resent the decision and this will inevitably cause the relationship to fail.

So speaks "Dr. Relationship"

P.S. Can you find a better partner? Probably. Reading in New Scientist recently, it's surprising how few people we meet before we find "miss right". In effect most people make the choice having been acquainted with only a few hundred potential partners, and choose based on that pool.

[SallyAnne]

Ni, I'm Dave Mac and I'm Scottish, not AussieLong who's Australian. I was reading through. Been in a meeting. Very poignant speech you gave.

Are you also called Dave?

Ooooh is the Aussie chap "long"?!!

[Platypus]

The funny thing is they are probably really unhappy at home, but too gutless to do anything about it.

I seem to recall someone else on here posting the other day that they needed to be single but didn't have the heart to dump their bloke. I guess they're really unhappy at home too.

[Incognito]

Log in as the wrong ID then?

Ni, I'm Dave Mac and I'm Scottish, not AussieLong who's Australian. I was reading through. Been in a meeting. Very poignant speech you gave.

[SallyAnne]

That was so poignant I'm going to ask the burd to marry me

Log in as the wrong ID then?

[Incognito]

Hi AussieLong.


Yes you should marry her.


My reasoning is this: -

You may be more confident and rich than ever before, but let's be honest...you're not an attractive man are you?

If you were, you'd already be off sh*gging some young bit of stuff.

You clearly dont *truly* love your lass (else you would have already proposed in a wuv-ey duv-ey manor!), so I'm guessing the things that are keeping you with her are: -

- she's nice enough
- you're confortable enough
- you're happy enough
- your life's nice enough

This is good enough I reckon - dont you?

You're probably never going to meet anyone better - and if you do, just leave her?

Nothings ever set in stone - better to just make your lass happy, keep the grief from your door, and just concentrate on the good points (stag do, big party day, bling suit/shoes/cufflinks, very posh honeymoon etc etc)



This thread really reminds me of that Alan Partridge line "I love you...in a way"

That was so poignant I'm going to ask the burd to marry me

[SallyAnne]

Right....now that I've read everything...

Firstly - this is the best thread I think I have ever read! We must keep it going and all squabbles should be taken here from now on

Secondly - can we please please please never forget that Bagpuss may have a dating site (please let that be true). Oh my god - there might be a photo!!!!! There might be "smooth patter" - oh jesus christ Lucy I will pay you £5000 for the details!! Please!!

Thirdly - with regards to the 2nd point - Bagpuss, you may thnk that Lucy has betrayed you by even mentioning it...but clearly she hasn't. A real betrayal would have been posting the site wouldn't it. She threatened something in a moment of anger. But even at her MOST angry, she still didn't give in to the constant begging from us lot to reveal this site.
I think you may have a true friend there (behind the angry CUK mist)

Fourthly - Lucy...if Bagpuss is pushing your buttons this much (and it has to be said, vice versa too), then you need to ask yourself what the hell is going on with you two?!! Are there some actual feelings here? If so, stop being nobbas and meet up for smooching already!!

Fifthly - god I'm sooooooooooooooo pleased to be back - this is like breathing again!!!

Sixthly - AussieTwat....you are the biggest nob jockey that's been on here for quite some time. Bravo!! Excellent Trolling

[SallyAnne]

It's okay, I'm soooo bored of him anyway. Sad little twat, who lies about his height!!!!

Can we say twat again?!!

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