What would you do?

[Pinto]

What about your wife? Has she talked to him about going to the GP?

[Troll]

Did he farm sheep?

Farm experts called for a ban on sheep-dips based on organophosphates this week until more is known about their link to neurological damage, mental instability and suicide among farmers.

According to Andrew Watterson of De Montfort University, decades of data strongly suggest that regular exposure to organophosphates (OPs) results in progressive damage to the nervous system and neuropsychiatric problems.

[TimberWolf]

Tell him that he agreed to go to the Doctor's yesterday?

[cailin maith]

RH - thats a really tulipty position to be in. For both you and Mrs RH.

Is Mrs RH's mum still around? Has she expressed any concern or need of help?

I think what Mich said before is right. My mum is a nurse, now in the same field as Mrs Mich, you need professional support as much as he will.

[realityhack]

What about your wife? Has she talked to him about going to the GP?

Yep. Which is what upset him.

Mother in law is aware, but they're separated (on semi-ok terms) and she's about as subtle as a freight train derailing at speed, and will probably just shout at him and bullly him into either further denial or action, so we'll definitely be talking to her.

I'll check out the resources and speak to (my own) doctor first to get some advice. The rate of decline is worrying.

He farmed tobacco, sugar cane and chickens. No sheep.

Thanks for the comments so far guys.

[Troll]

Yep. Which is what upset him.

Mother in law is aware, but they're separated (on semi-ok terms) and she's about as subtle as a freight train derailing at speed, and will probably just shout at him and bullly him into either further denial or action, so we'll definitely be talking to her.

I'll check out the resources and speak to (my own) doctor first to get some advice. The rate of decline is worrying.

He farmed tobacco, sugar cane and chickens. No sheep.

Thanks for the comments so far guys.

Can we grow tobacco in this country (off to check wiki).. or is he an import from Rhodesia?

[realityhack]

Tell him that he agreed to go to the Doctor's yesterday?

You know, that may just work. Devious, but a good last-resort.

At the end of the day - I know I'd like someone to be doing the same for me - even if it was just to buy me a few more years of cogency. Especially if I had planned to write. Such a waste if he refuses treatment.

[realityhack]

Can we grow tobacco in this country (off to check wiki).. or is he an import from Rhodesia?

Spot on. The family moved from Surrey to Rhodesia in the 50s, and left when Mad Bob totally screwed it all up.

[suityou01]

My Grandmother was well into her 80s and her memory was totally shot. She still muddled along and lived into her nineties (albeit in a home)

There are some very serious and unpleasant things you need to consider here.

First and foremost is your father's well being, that goes without saying. His independance is at threat. This indignation is either fuelled by fear of the inevitable or misplaced pride. If possible I would reason with him that you want him to remain independant for as long as possible, and to help him do that he needs to get some medication. (I know you have tried reasoning with him, but this line of attack is worth a shot)

Secondly, are the legals all in order? My grandmother was coerced into signing a power of attourney over to a bent solicitor behind my father's back. Nasty business. Make sure the house is in order.

Thirdly rather than him go into a home, there are flats with wardens that come round and check on them - kind of a half way measure.

Good luck.

[NiceUpNorth]

I would definately have another 1-2-1 with him.

Are there 'good days' when his senses are more a kin to the younger man he once was? If so, i suggest having the sit down then, and ensure that something is decided that day i.e. appointment booked with GP

HTH