Does your lover spend your money

[BrilloPad]

My ex was on a good'ish salary £45k, but she was still over drawn and maxed out on her cards, so I never let her have access to my cash, if she can't live on £45k then she has a problem. Best move I ever made as in the end we split, she has nothing I have a pile of cash , though cash hasn't got nice tits.

If we had been married with kids though and she wasnt working I would of given her access to everything I had.

But cash can buy nice tits.

[deano]

I work, she looks after the home and kids.

We have a joint bank account and the dosh goes in there for her to spend in whatever way she feels best. I get my pocket money on Friday nights!

To be honest I usually build up a wodge of cash because I rarely spend any of my pocket money these days.

Anyway, she takes care of all the domestic banking, bill paying etc. She's as tights as a gnat's chuff though when it comes to spending so I'm happy. The kids get good clothes from M&S, John Lewis etc. but she rarely pays full price because she buys ahead when sales are on and waits for the kids to grow into them.

It seems to work.

[HeliCraig]

What a timely thread, since Fiance HC and myself are currently engaged in some "discussions" around this topic.

I work, well I turn up, and she doesn't. She is staying at home to bring up MiniMe who is 14 months old. I pay all the bills, including her credit cards which she ran up while we were single. I provide a brand new Focus which is taxed, insured and fuelled; while I drive round in her old Ka which I also tax, insure and MoT. She basically has to pay for nothing.

Now, I do not begrudge her any of this. I just wish the house was looked after, the magical underwear drawer was magical again and generally "home" was exactly that.

Instead she is always out and about and the house seems to be in a permanent state of disarray and she always claims to be tired.

[original PM]

Helicraig I think you may have an issue

She is taking you and your money for granted - the lack of clean house and magical underwear drawer would tell me she has stopped making an effort.

Also was minime planned or did it just happen? if it just happened then I would also say she has probably sprung the trap!

oh and to make you feel even better if you ain't getting the magical underwear drawer someone else is........

maybe as a check tell her that your contract is over and she can no longer spend any money - you may find she is gone when you come home......


probably - but then I don't write agony aunt columns -

[NetwkSupport]

Helicraig I think you may have an issue

She is taking you and your money for granted - the lack of clean house and magical underwear drawer would tell me she has stopped making an effort.

Also was minime planned or did it just happen? if it just happened then I would also say she has probably sprung the trap!

oh and to make you feel even better if you ain't getting the magical underwear drawer someone else is........

maybe as a check tell her that your contract is over and she can no longer spend any money - you may find she is gone when you come home......


probably - but then I don't write agony aunt columns -

HAHA i hope your just trying to wind him up

[ratewhore]

Fark no!! I bailed my ex-wife out on a number of occasions so I learnt that lesson.

Me and my live in lurver (female IHTA) have one account for the house and bills which we both pay an amount into, the rest stays in my, again MY, account!!

[HeliCraig]

probably - but then I don't write agony aunt
columns -

Which is odd - because with the recently rising suicide rate, I thought you'd taken it up as a career!

HAHA i hope your just trying to wind him up

Or point out the obvious maybe. She is normally alright, think she just needs a bit of "re-programming."

[SallyAnne]

I work, she looks after the home and kids.

We have a joint bank account and the dosh goes in there for her to spend in whatever way she feels best. I get my pocket money on Friday nights!

To be honest I usually build up a wodge of cash because I rarely spend any of my pocket money these days.

Anyway, she takes care of all the domestic banking, bill paying etc. She's as tights as a gnat's chuff though when it comes to spending so I'm happy. The kids get good clothes from M&S, John Lewis etc. but she rarely pays full price because she buys ahead when sales are on and waits for the kids to grow into them.

It seems to work.

This woman is my hero!!

She doesn't work.
She gets to control everything.
She has you convinced you get too much cash.
And she has you convinced she's some sort of modern day wife-Jesus!

I must learn from her! Please ask her to PM me!

[swamp]

I largely fund Mrs Swamp's lifestyle, but I'm hoping Mrs Swamp will one day earn as much if not more than I, and will fund the lifestyle I want to become accustomed to.

[NetwkSupport]

fund the mrs however she graciously cleans, does the shopping and other bits, doesnt blow my hard earned money on clothes and in return all she asks for is loyalty, love, attention and baby making.

She's also a trained beautician and will be setting up working from home next year so maybe one day i can call her my plan B