Just got engaged…

[scooterscot]

Was it the same bird that you went with?

Seriously though, why?

Why not? 3 years already people are becoming suspicious of my intentions!

 

[Churchill]

Why not? 3 years already people are becoming suspicious of my intentions!

Marriage spoils many a beautiful friendship.

 

[andy]

Get ready for constant whinging,nagging and what not

 

[Buffoon]

Haven't you got any mates to talk you out of it?

 

[sunnysan]

Marriage

Marriage

Well congrats

All the best for you.

Basically it goes like this.

You get married and it costs a fcking arm and leg , but you are in love so its worth it.

About the time you recover financially from the wedding, she will get preggy and then you need to fork out for pre natal etc etc, not to mention when the kid is actually born.

But its all good, you have a woman who loves you and a family which many a millionaire want but money can buy

But rest assured, marriage is the most difficult relationship you will ever have and its not always nice and sometimes you will wonder what the **** you have done and why you should do this when you are broke, missus is treating you like sh1t etc etc , when you could be single , cash rich and jetting off for ski holidays etc etc.

Problem today is that everybody expects to be happy in their marriage all the time and the reality is is that marriage takes from you as much as it gives you and to be fair, in todays society it is hard to keep it together when the take gets more than the give although in the long run it is probably worth it.

Expect a bit of a power struggle as well, when the ring is on the finger the woman has the power and she knows it. You have given it to her so you better be bloody sure what you have done. Its only natural that the dynamics in your relationship will change somewhat and in the first two years you need to establish your boundries as you will need to set a precedant. If you dont do it in the first two years you marriage is as good as fcked (IMHO)

Teh good things are the building of a great team, the trust , the knowledge that you have a person you can rely on and get old with.

At the end of the day though , its roll of the dice, you dont know what lies ahead but maybe if you are lucky and blessed all will go well

I am married (2nd time) and hoping for the best. So I still believe in it and hope I am right.

 

[kramer]

*sob* *sob*

 

[scooterscot]

Well congrats

All the best for you.

Basically it goes like this.

You get married and it costs a fcking arm and leg , but you are in love so its worth it.

About the time you recover financially from the wedding, she will get preggy and then you need to fork out for pre natal etc etc, not to mention when the kid is actually born.

But its all good, you have a woman who loves you and a family which many a millionaire want but money can buy

But rest assured, marriage is the most difficult relationship you will ever have and its not always nice and sometimes you will wonder what the **** you have done and why you should do this when you are broke, missus is treating you like sh1t etc etc , when you could be single , cash rich and jetting off for ski holidays etc etc.

Problem today is that everybody expects to be happy in their marriage all the time and the reality is is that marriage takes from you as much as it gives you and to be fair, in todays society it is hard to keep it together when the take gets more than the give although in the long run it is probably worth it.

Expect a bit of a power struggle as well, when the ring is on the finger the woman has the power and she knows it. You have given it to her so you better be bloody sure what you have done. Its only natural that the dynamics in your relationship will change somewhat and in the first two years you need to establish your boundries as you will need to set a precedant. If you dont do it in the first two years you marriage is as good as fcked (IMHO)

Teh good things are the building of a great team, the trust , the knowledge that you have a person you can rely on and get old with.

At the end of the day though , its roll of the dice, you dont know what lies ahead but maybe if you are lucky and blessed all will go well

I am married (2nd time) and hoping for the best. So I still believe in it and hope I am right.

Well thanks for that detailed synopsis of married life Sunnysan. Sorry to read lady luck was not on your side first time round. I thought 3 years was a reasonable time to pass before popping the question, our interests are very much aligned, i.e. eat good food, travel, and spend some money we haven’t got. The cost of ceremony does however feel a little on the high side all so commercialised so the idea of doing the deed in tropical paradise does appeal. Neither of us believes marriage will change day to day life for us just a continuation of what we’ve got, each other, sniff sniff I’m about to cry…

 

[_V_]

Went on holiday to tropical zanzibar with my partner came back with a fiancée

Those of you who have already made the plunge, tell me what dangers await me? I’m not prepared for this…

http://forums.contractoruk.com/thread13614.html

 

[expat]

Went on holiday to tropical zanzibar with my partner came back with a fiancée

Those of you who have already made the plunge, tell me what dangers await me? I’m not prepared for this…

The first year of marriage, after a couple of years of living together, can be very trying for both spouses. I don't know why this is, I suppose that you are still learning about each other, when you though you had learnt it all. Have courage and patioence, and don't let the sun go down on a quarrel, or it'll still be there when you wake up.


Q: why is the bride always smiling?
A: because she knows she's given her last blow-job.

 

[scooterscot]

http://forums.contractoruk.com/thread13614.html

Chee am I glad I don’t work in IT all that competition, how do you guys (and dolls) cope with it?