Just got engaged…

[Ardesco]

Went on holiday to tropical zanzibar with my partner came back with a fiancée

Those of you who have already made the plunge, tell me what dangers await me? I’m not prepared for this…

Just make sure you have a prenup

May sound silly right now when you are both in love, but if it all goes down the pan in 10 years time it will save you a minor fortune and you will be very very glad you did it.

 

[EternalOptimist]

Women get totally p!ssed off after marriage because they expect the bloke to change and he doesn't

Men get totally p!ssed off after marriage because they expect the bird not to change and she does.

 

[jeremytaxman]

Search this forum for Divorce - and that will open your eyes to the risks.

Seriously ... think carefully....

 

[andy]

or think long term and get a membership of fathers4justice

 

[kramer]

...and you got to think about the whole baby thing....

 

[realityhack]

Just make sure you have a prenup

May sound silly right now when you are both in love, but if it all goes down the pan in 10 years time it will save you a minor fortune and you will be very very glad you did it.

Does sound sensible - you never know - but how on earth do you work that one into conversation? Has anyone here got a prenup and how did you break the subject with your then fiancee?

 

[sunnysan]

I thought

I thought

AFAIK a prenup is not really cast in stone and the court could choose to disregard it in any settlement

This is just what I have heard but a more informed legal opinion is welcome.

As well as that , just to balance out the good and the bad, how many here have had uncontested divorces, where albeit emotionally painful the two involved parties come to the conclusion that separation is the best for everybody.

I know quite a few who have and my reason for bringing this up is we only really hear about the bad divorces and it would be good to counter that with anybodies experiences of amicable ones.

Mines was very painful emotionally but legally amicable, albeit I am not Rockefeller.

 

[Paddy]

What happens at the marriage ceremony?

During the ceremony the bride is switched by a similar looking woman. When you get home because she sounds and look the same as your fiancé your mind tricks you in to believing she is the same. However the small tell tale signs that the woman you married is not the same as the one you knew before slowly shows through.

It cost Paul McCartney £6,000 per hour of marriage to find this out.

 

[hyperD]

Did you not look behind the neck, just under the hairline, for the small implant? Scary when you first see it...

 

[wantacontract]

hmmm

hmmm

congrats...i got engaged recently too....we've been going out for 7 years....
I feel as though I know her well, and don't think we'll change after the marriage, despite what a LOT of people have told me.....

I just hope I don't become bitter and disecnchanted like a lot of people here are. Not having a go at them, but if what they say is true, then they would be bitter, etc.....

I feel that my gf is different, we went to look at rings, and she didn't pressure me to buy the most expensive one, infact she said she would be happy with a 0.5 carat one.....

more to the point, i am hoping my marriage is a happy and permanent one.....

another thing which i think my relationship is different to others, is that ours have had some much resistance.....my family - parents being racists to white people.....her parents with me being chinese, and not wealthy enough.....and being a moody git too....

having gone through a lot, I fell confident about our future...

anyway, all the best with your engagement....