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Children with ADHD. Real or bad parenting?

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  • vetran
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    Originally posted by Uncle Albert View Post
    Spod is more than able to take a joke.
    course he is, he knows MF!

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  • Uncle Albert
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    Originally posted by RichardCranium View Post
    Oh, the delicious irony.



    I just came here looking for something, saw how this thread started, thought, 'Figures' and came to the end and saw your most recent post.

    Your nastiness, total lack of empathy and constant sniping to cause pain are the reasons I no longer frequent this site. I am one of the many you pushed away.

    I could no longer bear the pain and anger you were causing me and others with your total lack of ability to understand that when people ask for help online with real life crises, they were suffering and seeking supportive guidance and advice, not your standard heartless and belittling responses. You promoted a culture of hardness and unsympathetic humiliation on this site. Perhaps your child is modelling himself on his father.

    Want help or TLC? Here's some:

    Grow some and toughen up.

    Yeah, that kid is definitely yours. Assuming your posts are even genuine.
    I think you have rather misjudged the tone of MFs post.
    Bringing up children with special needs is not easy and sometimes the only way to cope is use humour. Spod is more than able to take a joke.

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  • RichardCranium
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    Oh, the delicious irony.

    Originally posted by MarillionFan View Post
    I am now of the opinion that Spod is really his father.

    As he;s just reached 14 he's now 6 foot 1, Spod is still coming to mind and I may push for a DNA test.
    I just came here looking for something, saw how this thread started, thought, 'Figures' and came to the end and saw your most recent post.

    Your nastiness, total lack of empathy and constant sniping to cause pain are the reasons I no longer frequent this site. I am one of the many you pushed away.

    I could no longer bear the pain and anger you were causing me and others with your total lack of ability to understand that when people ask for help online with real life crises, they were suffering and seeking supportive guidance and advice, not your standard heartless and belittling responses. You promoted a culture of hardness and unsympathetic humiliation on this site. Perhaps your child is modelling himself on his father.

    Want help or TLC? Here's some:

    Grow some and toughen up.

    Yeah, that kid is definitely yours. Assuming your posts are even genuine.

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  • NotAllThere
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    Some friends of mine adopted a kid when he was about 3. Never an easy kid, at age 16 he ended up banging on his mother's locked bedroom door, demanding to be given his stash of marijuana. She called the police and he was taken into care.

    Fast forward a few years, he's clean, and a loving father with a son, and in regular friendly contact with his friends. Just so you know - there is hope. But also, at some point, you might just have to give up.

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  • mudskipper
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    Jeez, sorry to hear.

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  • NotAllThere
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    Originally posted by vetran View Post

    Don't let him watch "Yes minister" or they will lock him up. he'll become Prime Minister
    FTFY

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  • vetran
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    Originally posted by ladymuck View Post

    Good to know that Family Guy is essential training for budding terrorists
    Don't let him watch "Yes minister" or they will lock him up.

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  • vetran
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    Sorry to hear MF that is a difficult situation.

    I think you can put most of the blame on his illness. Its not really fair to ask parents to cope alone with mental illness for extended periods.

    Sadly CAMHS is too short staffed and poorly organised, we have tried to refer children to them via the school as well and they talk about seeing them months in the future so they aren't really any use when the illness starts. Mental health services were disbanded decades ago and the Police see more actual insane people (clearing up after the mess the outbursts cause) than the NHS do.

    Hope you all get through it!

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  • ladymuck
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    Oh crap, what a rubbish situation to be in.

    Good to know that Family Guy is essential training for budding terrorists

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  • MarillionFan
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    2023 and things have not improved. He's still at the special school but he's a case they cannot crack.
    He moved to a form of tourettes, says the most inappropriate things, recently excluded for doing Nazi salutes singing a song about gas the jews I am now of the opinion that Spod is really his father.

    As he;s just reached 14 he's now 6 foot 1, Spod is still coming to mind and I may push for a DNA test. Excluded twice this month for shouting random stuff out.
    We took him to see the mental health team at CAMHS, they said he must have been radicalised and called Prevent the anti terrorist group. We had social services out and the police. Turns out, he;d learned it all from Family Guy and was just repeating the memes and singing songs out loud!

    Wife is on anti depressants. I can no longer drive on motorways / dual carriageways having had him kick off in the car a number of times and try and open the door or kick the driving seat

    Not interesting in contracting, but I do now have a good Amazon business and a warehouse I operate from.

    School phoned today, to say they don't think they can have him for much longer. So there you go. Real or bad parenting. Still finding out :-(
    Last edited by MarillionFan; 29 May 2023, 08:46.

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