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  • Whorty
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    Originally posted by Gibbon View Post
    Pleased for you.

    I told my wife the same a few years back when things were looking very bleak, much to her annoyance I'm still here making a mess and being a general nuisance!

    Be careful about the flat, 15 years ago I rented one while me and the wife 'had a break' for 6 months. After getting used to a detached house with a fairly private garden I hated it.

    I hated having neighbours on 3 sides at least one of them making a racket, sometimes they got in harmony and all 3 were racketing away. You'll have accumulated more stuff and have no garage or shed to dump it or safely put your cycle. Kitchen appliances make a fecking racket in the open plan ones. Putting rubbish out is tedious. There's at least once a week some tw*t parked in your slot usually coinciding with your return from the weekly shop.

    You'll miss the garden, common areas suck as someone will be playing spice girls 'forever' on loop, just so it feels like forever!

    However, if you manage to find a ground floor flat in a nice converted house, say no more than 4 flats and your own garden it may work, some of those Victorian ones with high ceilings and 'features' are stunning.

    Maybe try renting one for 6 months, just to make sure.

    Good luck whatever though, you deserve some.
    Some good advice.

    I've lived in a flat more than houses ... our first home was a flat, then a 3 bed house, then 4 bed house, then 3 bed flat, followed by this 6 bed house. Yes we have lots of stuff, as in furniture, but we only bought that stuff to fit out rooms. We've actually had a clearance out since we moved here from our London flat so I have less personal stuff now than when I lived in a flat with Mrs W.

    The flat I'm looking at is ground floor with sliding doors to small patio and communal gardens. I never was a great gardener and only really enjoyed being out there when Mrs W was with me. For now, having now garden to look after sounds like paradise, but that might change over time.

    Neighbours are always a risk. But if they play too much Spice Girls I'll have to put on my Anthrax and Metallica CDs

    Car parking is almost always contentious in flats. This will be my biggest bug bear I think, but I'm generally quite patient with people so it doesn't usually annoy me too much.

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  • Whorty
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    Originally posted by xoggoth View Post
    Not sure Whorty. I'm still living in a 4 bed house with nobody but my little puppet parrot since my son moved out about a year ago. Very slowly doing it up with the idea that I'll move someday but, typically, can never be a*d to get round to it.
    If I lived in an area I wanted to stay in then I probably wouldn't sell yet, but I live in the country and don't have anyone here to hold me back. Wife and I moved here to give her some peace in her last years and we knew I'd sell when the time came. Didn't really get chance to socialise locally as was looking after wife 24/7 (for which I have no regrets).

    Looking to move back to an area where I have a few friends and there are more people so I can hide in the crowd. Wife and I spoke about this before she passed and she fully agreed.

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  • Whorty
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    Originally posted by ladymuck View Post
    I shall keep my fingers crossed for you that it all continues to go smoothly.

    Sounds like MrsW is keeping an eye on things for you
    She always did. Still along way to go and I've yet to sell or buy without something going wrong, so tying to keep level headed.

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  • Gibbon
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    Pleased for you.

    I told my wife the same a few years back when things were looking very bleak, much to her annoyance I'm still here making a mess and being a general nuisance!

    Be careful about the flat, 15 years ago I rented one while me and the wife 'had a break' for 6 months. After getting used to a detached house with a fairly private garden I hated it.

    I hated having neighbours on 3 sides at least one of them making a racket, sometimes they got in harmony and all 3 were racketing away. You'll have accumulated more stuff and have no garage or shed to dump it or safely put your cycle. Kitchen appliances make a fecking racket in the open plan ones. Putting rubbish out is tedious. There's at least once a week some tw*t parked in your slot usually coinciding with your return from the weekly shop.

    You'll miss the garden, common areas suck as someone will be playing spice girls 'forever' on loop, just so it feels like forever!

    However, if you manage to find a ground floor flat in a nice converted house, say no more than 4 flats and your own garden it may work, some of those Victorian ones with high ceilings and 'features' are stunning.

    Maybe try renting one for 6 months, just to make sure.

    Good luck whatever though, you deserve some.

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  • ladymuck
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    I shall keep my fingers crossed for you that it all continues to go smoothly.

    Sounds like MrsW is keeping an eye on things for you

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  • xoggoth
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    Not sure Whorty. I'm still living in a 4 bed house with nobody but my little puppet parrot since my son moved out about a year ago. Very slowly doing it up with the idea that I'll move someday but, typically, can never be a*d to get round to it.

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  • Whorty
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    Originally posted by ChimpMaster View Post
    Ah so she never wanted you to meet another woman
    Actually, totally opposite is true. She wrote me a letter just before she went and obviously won't go through the details, but she did say she doesn't want me to go through life alone and I should, when the time is right, open my heart to a new companion. Even as she was dying she was only thinking about me.

    Originally posted by ChimpMaster View Post
    Congrats on the house sale. There are ways the buyers can expedite the purchase but it'll depend on a number of things such as mortgage (and lenders are SLOW right now) and paying solicitors that bit extra to get things done ASAP. Cash purchase would be the fastest but that's a rare thing amongst the general public.

    I empathise with how you feel, but a fresh perspective and a new outlook will help take you forward into the next half of your life. So much yet to do, so many experiences yet to be had.

    Good luck with the move mate.
    Thanks. My buyers have a house and they have sold but it's a long chain, so they are buying my house separately and hence for me no chain. They will need a small mortgage though to complete with me (when their sale goes through they'll clear the mortgage).

    I think as always the biggest stumbling block with be local area searches. Wiltshire Council has never been great. As you say, with solicitors you can always throw enough cash at the problem to get your sale/purchase to the top of their work pile

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  • Whorty
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    Originally posted by OwlHoot View Post
    Maybe a bit early to mention it, but what if you meet someone else at some point, and you're cooped up in a one bedroom flat?
    Firstly, I'm moving to a 2 bed flat. I was in a 2 bed flat when I met my wife and she moved in with me. The flat will be large enough.

    Secondly, I have no plan to meet anyone else. I still consider myself married to my wife even though she's no longer here. That feeling may, or may not, change as time goes on - I've no idea.

    If it works out that they flat is the wrong decision I'll just rent it out and buy something else so it's a low risk move.

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  • Whorty
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    Originally posted by DonaldJTrump View Post
    It really needs a pic of the property to illustrate the story, please be doing the needful
    No pics yet, property not officially on market yet so agent not done the photoshoot.

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