It doesn't just rain

[SueEllen]

Love the whole statementing thing. The head teacher said when we asked he may need 1 on 1 help for sometime that there were no funds available even if we get a statement. Ok fine says I, 'If it's money I'll pay how much do you want?'. 'Ah. Was the reply, I don't think we can take private funds, ermm, ermm'.

Seems when he goes into class, he shuts down completely. It's like having a breakdown every day. We took him out early today and he's been the most engaged child ever, perfect. Completely different to the child earlier in the day without all the extra stress.

In fact, it seems that any kind of stress he freaks out. Think I may ask Suity for a DNA test as well, something not right here.

Why are you so determined to keep your kid in a school he hates?

It's not like you live in the middle of nowhere so there aren't alternative schools.

[MarillionFan]

Why are you so determined to keep your kid in a school he hates?

It's not like you live in the middle of nowhere so there aren't alternative schools.

He's 7. He just gone to Jnr school. He goes in every day excited, during the day in class he melts down as the expectation of behaving overwhelms his ADHD and Anxiety levels. It's to do with coping issues in a child who has yet undiagnosed levels which may also be autistic.

Any other school would make it all worse. If we homeschool he won't have friends like Shaunbhoy and it doesn't deal with the issues.

[Coalman]

MF, just talked to the wife (teacher) about this. Persist in the statement approach, even pay privately for an educational psychologist who can do the assessment and present it to the school. If you get a statement, the funding for a TA must be provided, hence the resistance to statements. As you have found out, offering to pay for things directly is difficult as how do the school handle lots of parents with money funding TAs against those who can't pay, puts the classroom teacher in a difficult position.
Chin up and keep pushing, not just the school but the council as well. Near us there are state schools that specialise in children with these issue, you may not want to change school but they would be a good source of advice.
Stay of the pies!

[SueEllen]

He's 7. He just gone to Jnr school. He goes in every day excited, during the day in class he melts down as the expectation of behaving overwhelms his ADHD and Anxiety levels. It's to do with coping issues in a child who has yet undiagnosed levels which may also be autistic.

Any other school would make it all worse. If we homeschool he won't have friends like Shaunbhoy and it doesn't deal with the issues.

It's worth getting in touch with the Autistic Society if you think he is autistic.

Also be aware that the school can try all sorts of tricks to "manage his behaviour" like excluding him for part of the week.

And parents who do homeschooling properly ensure their kids have other children to socialise with. Obviously unlike school there kids are hand picked.

[d000hg]

Is this a real thing MF? I have a friend who is a teacher in an autistic school if this isn't another, particularly inappropriate facet of your Walter Mitty story...

[Mordac]

Is this a real thing MF? I have a friend who is a teacher in an autistic school if this isn't another, particularly inappropriate facet of your Walter Mitty story...

I know MF, and I know he has the occasional habit of slightly exaggerating things somewhat, usually to generate debate (and occasionally derision) but this sort of thing is way outside his usual zone of "confrontational discussion". I have a nephew who is practically in the same mould - basically a thug. He went through every assessment going, every result slightly different, you call him a thug, we call him a child with a challenging background, whatever you choose to call it, he has issues. I don't see how you can throw 1000 kids together and expect none of them to have some sort of problem, it's the law of bleedin' averages ffs. He's now 15, and getting to grips with things. By which I mean, he knows his behaviour is a problem, and he's dealing with it. He's taken up martial arts, for example. So he now knows if he steps over the line, he gets a beating. Takes said beating like a man. Hats off to him for that.

[shaunbhoy]

If we homeschool he won't have friends like Shaunbhoy and it doesn't deal with the issues.

You say that like it is a bad thing!!

[MarillionFan]

I know MF, and I know he has the occasional habit of slightly exaggerating things somewhat, usually to generate debate (and occasionally derision) but this sort of thing is way outside his usual zone of "confrontational discussion". I have a nephew who is practically in the same mould - basically a thug. He went through every assessment going, every result slightly different, you call him a thug, we call him a child with a challenging background, whatever you choose to call it, he has issues. I don't see how you can throw 1000 kids together and expect none of them to have some sort of problem, it's the law of bleedin' averages ffs. He's now 15, and getting to grips with things. By which I mean, he knows his behaviour is a problem, and he's dealing with it. He's taken up martial arts, for example. So he now knows if he steps over the line, he gets a beating. Takes said beating like a man. Hats off to him for that.

No all true. Difference is, he isn't violent or aggressive with the other kids. Presently he still has friends, is(was) popular and still getting invites to parties(though not any more methinks). The move to Jnr school meant there were more kids in the class he didn't know and he was left with a few friends from his last. He literally just isn't coping. He's not ticking enough autistic traits, he just seems to get overwhelmed & unfortunately shows it by disruptive behaviour/noises and worse trashing the classroom (which he seems to have learned in the last few weeks). None of this happens at home. If he as much pushes something off a table, he's told off and made to pick it up.

He's just gone in, all happy & singing. I think he might be possessed.

[MarillionFan]

It's worth getting in touch with the Autistic Society if you think he is autistic.

Also be aware that the school can try all sorts of tricks to "manage his behaviour" like excluding him for part of the week.

And parents who do homeschooling properly ensure their kids have other children to socialise with. Obviously unlike school there kids are hand picked.

Home schooling would be a final final final resort. He's been in mainstream for 4 years, but the pressure of going from infants to a junior where more is expected seems to be the issue. I think we need to find a way to mitigate the anxiety and ADHD for him to succeed. Other issue is, he doesn't communicate properly, cannot tell you what he feels etc, which makes this harder.

[mdhd]

There was once a king who asked the wisest man of his time to write one sentence that will make him happy in sad times and should make him sad in happy times. He wrote, "this too, shall pass". So, don't worry and carry on fighting

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