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Don't want to marry but have kid on the way

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    #11
    Originally posted by ELBBUBKUNPS View Post
    Ok sounds like I'm screwed then .... didn't go bare back it must of split or something, I'm confident its mine, its not ideal as I didn't want one but it is what is now and the idea of a junior is growing on me either way she wouldn't of got rid of it, I have distinct feeling though if it wasn't for the kid on the way we would of split and to be honest I think its more a mater of time rather than if it happens. The marriage thing is coming from her and her family as there are religious.
    So you don't want to marry her because you don't love her you mean. That's a different kettle of fish......
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      #12
      If you are unmarried, you need to make sure your name is on the birth certificate to ensure you have parental rights if you split.
      What Surname Will The Baby Have? - DAD.info

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        #13
        A lot of I'll informed people posting. Purely talking finances, then married or not you will have a financial obligation for your child. If you split from the mother then you will still have to pay that. If you are married you may also have to pay towards maintaining her lifestyle and compensating her for bringing up your child (if that is how it pans out). Not enough info given to give any opinion on how that might pan out.

        If you don't want to get married, don't.

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          #14
          Go to Mumsnet, there are countless threads on how to screw over dads on maintenance etc. Just read through them all and then devise a strategy.
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            #15
            Originally posted by ELBBUBKUNPS View Post

            If I don't marry her do I lose rights to see my child etc if we then split ? .
            If you get married, your rights to see your child are really at her discretion as she can ignore the law with impunity because with children possession is nine tenths of the law
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              #16
              Hopefully our CUK Marriage councilor Brillopad will be here soon to offer his advice.
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                #17
                Originally posted by northernladuk View Post
                Please don't think that not being married will make a jot of difference to this if it ever hits. I don't think it's on a par with being married yet but the lack of a wedding certificate will make no difference when it comes to divvying the goodies up compared to a married couple in the same situation. It will still end the same albeit a bit more messy if you are not married.
                Can you elaborate on why this is the case? Because there is a huge difference according to the law. You only get something if you split when unmarried if it can be proved that you intended to get married in the future, you have a stake in the assets (e.g. paid part of the mortgage), or there are children involved (the children are entitled to a share of your assets). You might have to pay some rent or similar if your partner is without a home.

                According to the law, you won't get fleeced for half your stuff, and it looks MUCH more favourable than being married.

                Personally I don't think I will ever get married or express any intention to. But I might have a fake wedding just for appearances sake.
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                  #18
                  Get married, but keep your fingers crossed during the vows so it doesn't count.

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                    #19
                    Divorce ruling will stop husbands cheating their wives out of money - Telegraph

                    Look at the comments. They will tell you all you need to know.

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                      #20
                      Originally posted by DodgyAccountant View Post
                      Divorce ruling will stop husbands cheating their wives out of money - Telegraph

                      Look at the comments. They will tell you all you need to know.
                      Hurrah for equality.


                      BTW, if you were using protection and your wife got pregs, I mean, the failure rate is pretty low. I'd be suspicious, unless I wasn't particularly religious about using it.
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