How to prepare for possible divorce in advance

[eek]

• What lawyers do is not beyond comprehension.

Anything and everything possible to maximise the amount of money they can charge / make?

[Lance]

Anything and everything possible to maximise the amount of money they can charge / make?

Sometimes. Yes.

They're not all awful people. A bit like not all IT contractors are awful people.

[GregRickshaw]

• The law says you have to insure your car.
• Your lender says you have to insure your house.
• A pre-nup is not insurance, it is a contract, that can quickly become invalid if/when challenged. Having one is more likely to result in an acrimonious divorce than accepting 50/50 split.
• If you want insurance to protect against divorce, get actual insurance Divorce looming? It could pay to insure yourself (citywire.com)
• What lawyers do is not beyond comprehension.

Car - yes
Lender - only if you have one
Of course it's a form of insurance I'll give you not in your true sense. Second part though is utter HS having a pre-nup and ending in acrimonious is your opinion there are no facts on this.

Send the link to the OP
Beyond comprehension - except we all comprehend they make money from others misery.

[northernladuk]

Of course it's a form of insurance I'll give you not in your true sense. Second part though is utter HS having a pre-nup and ending in acrimonious is your opinion there are no facts on this.

But you are mixing up terms. There is insurance and there is a contract. We kind of agree what insurance is, like car/house etc, the contract just ensures agreements are made and kept. You could call any contract insurance in the way you are phrasing it which just instant helpful. Can't mix the two up and say a pre-nup (i.e. contract) is insurance. It's not helpful to lump it in to somethign it really isn't.

[Lance]

Car - yes
Lender - only if you have one
Of course it's a form of insurance I'll give you not in your true sense. Second part though is utter HS having a pre-nup and ending in acrimonious is your opinion there are no facts on this.

Send the link to the OP
Beyond comprehension - except we all comprehend they make money from others misery.

for someone who doesn't like or understand lawyers you seem very keen on doing something that requires lawyers, and is questionable as to how well it could stand up in a court of law (and then requires more lawyers).

[Snooky]

I hope you manage to sort things out but, if not, may I recommend you both talk to a mediator in family law - a lawyer whose aim is to try and get you both to see a way forward which works for everyone, at the lowest possible financial and emotional cost?

I haven't been through a divorce but I know enough people who've ended up wasting huge amounts of energy and money in acrimonious battles that might have been settled in a calmer, more pragmatic and mutually beneficial way. My sister in law is an accredited mediator and is one of the gentlest, most empathetic people I know, so I can imagine that her clients generally come out of the process feeling far less negative and bitter than might otherwise have been the case.

[GregRickshaw]

But you are mixing up terms. There is insurance and there is a contract. We kind of agree what insurance is, like car/house etc, the contract just ensures agreements are made and kept. You could call any contract insurance in the way you are phrasing it which just instant helpful. Can't mix the two up and say a pre-nup (i.e. contract) is insurance. It's not helpful to lump it in to somethign it really isn't.

Agreed I did mix up terms my vernacular was wrong to use insurance maybe assurance... oh hang on

[GregRickshaw]

for someone who doesn't like or understand lawyers you seem very keen on doing something that requires lawyers, and is questionable as to how well it could stand up in a court of law (and then requires more lawyers).

As I can't comprehend the law and the courts yes I use lawyers often. I didn't say I didn't like them as people or for being professionals and for charging their worth.

Just seems to be everywhere there is misery there are lawyers prolonging it or complicating things.

[Lance]

As I can't comprehend the law and the courts yes I use lawyers often. I didn't say I didn't like them as people or for being professionals and for charging their worth.

Just seems to be everywhere there is misery there are lawyers prolonging it or complicating things.

granted.


One more thing I forgot to say.
The biggest sufferers in a divorce are kids. No pre-nup can cater for them. Pre-nups are all about money and assets. If your only priority is money and assets then maybe a pre-nup is for you.

[GregRickshaw]

granted.


One more thing I forgot to say.
The biggest sufferers in a divorce are kids. No pre-nup can cater for them. Pre-nups are all about money and assets. If your only priority is money and assets then maybe a pre-nup is for you.

True story