My Ex (now remarried) told me that she is going to give up work so as to spend some more time with my daughter (aged 5), and that I will need to pay more Child support. Knowing it was all bull, I told her that her decision to give up work has nothing to do with me and I am only liable for my share of childcare costs not her own defict.
Anyway I found out from my daughter that mummy has a little baby in her tummy, so looks like there is going to be a stormy weather ahead when she gives up work.
I have my daugher with me minimum of 1 overnight day a week. a little more here and there if im not working or Ex has other engagements. There are no issues regarding when I want my daughter
I am all up for paying equal share of child costs especially since her and partner do have good jobs as well. I dont want to prop up another household with by hard earned cash!
I generally make a lumpsum payment every 3 or 4 months to her because I have not managed to sit down to fully calculate the monthly costs, though Ex has been slighly shady about the costs thought think I've probably overpaid her. It was a lot easier while daughter was in private as I used to get a copy of the bill so paid 60% of monthly to Ex and then take care of other bits and pieces in between.
I pay myself a gross salary of about £18k and take around £20k divs.
I like to have some idea of what could happens if was dragged to CSA(that i guess is the worst case scenario). Will they access me on Salary alone or Salary + divs?
My standpoint is that if she gives up work to have a baby then that should bear no impact on what I have to pay... afterrall if I lost my gig/have another child I will still have to meet my full parental obligations