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    #11
    Originally posted by macme View Post
    Many many thanks - got the ball rolling on the first 2 points and on point 3, well, once bitten, twice shy! :-)
    And point 1?

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      #12
      Originally posted by BrilloPad View Post
      I was thinking that. I have 2 disabled children - MrsBP would struggle with even a part time job.
      That was a polite version of what I was going to write.

      Even if the kid isn't disabled sorting out and paying for childcare for the few hours after school is a PITTA. (Presuming the workplace is also happy you turn up around 10am.) Then there are school holidays to manage. If there are no nearby family/close friends' then you are fecked.

      In short until the kid is in secondary school and can prove they aren't a danger to themselves - and this depends on the individual kid - they need an adult or a sensible older teenager around.
      "You’re just a bad memory who doesn’t know when to go away" JR

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        #13
        Originally posted by SueEllen View Post
        That was a polite version of what I was going to write.

        Even if the kid isn't disabled sorting out and paying for childcare for the few hours after school is a PITTA. (Presuming the workplace is also happy you turn up around 10am.) Then there are school holidays to manage. If there are no nearby family/close friends' then you are fecked.

        In short until the kid is in secondary school and can prove they aren't a danger to themselves - and this depends on the individual kid - they need an adult or a sensible older teenager around.
        Even if not a danger to themselves, they may need extra support in many ways.

        You are always polite. Unlike me.....

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          #14
          Bite her hand off

          Originally posted by macme View Post
          H I just received a proposal from her solicitor asking fro 35K more and also a spousal maintenance of £1,000k a month. .
          Bite her hand off NOW !!!! take the deal otherwise £35K will soon go on legal fees anyway, then you will still need to pay!!

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            #15
            Have you considered being the main parent? That way you get all the joys, less work and the pleasure of seeing the ex’s ideal disappear down the tubes.
            See You Next Tuesday

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              #16
              Originally posted by tarbera View Post
              Bite her hand off NOW !!!! take the deal otherwise £35K will soon go on legal fees anyway, then you will still need to pay!!
              When does that £1k a month finish
              merely at clientco for the entertainment

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                #17
                Originally posted by Lance View Post
                Have you considered being the main parent? That way you get all the joys, less work and the pleasure of seeing the ex’s ideal disappear down the tubes.
                He won't get less work but different and more rewarding work plus the pleasure of having a closer relationship with his son.
                "You’re just a bad memory who doesn’t know when to go away" JR

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                  #18
                  Originally posted by SueEllen View Post
                  He won't get less work but different and more rewarding work plus the pleasure of having a closer relationship with his son.
                  Agreed. However it will not happen. The family (NK) courts take the side of the children. And the money follows that. And the women are assumed to have the child's best interests. The men are not.

                  ex-mrs-bp held onto the kids until she had the money. then handed them over......

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                    #19
                    Originally posted by BrilloPad View Post
                    Does your 8 year old have learning difficulties? Are they statemented?

                    The children(up to 18) do need to come first.

                    You made a huge mistake of going this alone without a solicitor. All solicitors are effectively PAYG. Did her solicitor advise you to get your own solicitor? If not, they are in the poo.

                    I did the finances without a solicitor - including representing myself in court - but then I had an incredible McKenzie friend.

                    Go and get a solicitor. Do not contact her solicitor yourself again.

                    Did you not do any research first? http://forums.contractoruk.com/gener...following.html

                    Though there have been plenty of warnings about marriage since 2002 when f4j bought it to the world's attention.

                    Just to be clear - if you are a man - DO NOT GET MARRIED. DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN.

                    There again, happiness and contentment are over-rated.....
                    Flippin heck BP - bad experience I guess? Probably too late for most of us - I get the idea that I'd be shafted if I ever got divorced.
                    Rhyddid i lofnod psychocandy!!!!

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                      #20
                      Originally posted by psychocandy View Post
                      Flippin heck BP - bad experience I guess? Probably too late for most of us - I get the idea that I'd be shafted if I ever got divorced.
                      To be honest I'd echo his sentiments and I'm only just at the Form E stage of what has - so far - been an amicable separation. No kids (luckily) but being the higher earner is sounding more like it's going to get me screwed badly, to the point where I just wouldn't want to risk going through it again. In my case we've already split assets of £80k equally but given that we earn quite different amounts she wanted an additional £50k lump sum. My generosity topped out at £30k so we failed at mediation and now got to see what the solicitors think... the fun and games begins!

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